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Post by dannylion on Nov 20, 2019 13:05:25 GMT -5
They claimed my dad's side of the family had native American blood. My grandpa and all his siblings had dark skin and black hair. My dad and his brother look like them as well. My dad and brother have done the DNA thing. It's Italian blood not native American that made them look that way. Other than Italy, it was mostly western European countries that agreed with the family genealogy trees. My brother's tree keeps updating and adding relatives. Either we need to buy a lottery ticket or someone's lying about the family tree. I'm not looking to dig up buried skeletons. I wouldn't be totally surprised though. It's already super messy. The test links you with relatives? That's cool and horrifying at the same time. I've already get some losers in my family, I don't need to add more! It's opt-in, so if you don't want to be found/contacted by a bunch of random 6th cousins once removed, you can decline the opportunity. I opted in at first and was contacted by a few people who were probably harmless, but they all kind of pegged the meter on family-tree-tracing enthusiasm, so I turned that option off and haven't had any further contacts. The relatives I know are annoying enough. If I'm going to invite more odd ducks into my life, it's going to be people I find on my own and who are preferably not related to me.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2019 13:05:47 GMT -5
My mom and her siblings found a long lost sibling through Ancestry.com. They knew he was out there from court records from my brother that was put up for adoption had on him when he found us, but there was no info on him as it was a closed adoption. It just said baby boy born to X on this date in this city.
Earlier this year he just popped up on our family tree right where he fit in as a half sibling and my uncle contacted him. Now he's on all our Facebook accounts and has come to some family stuff and is on the Christmas card lists for those that do that kind of thing. We just assimilate people. Your family sounds very nice . My aunts and uncles are incredibly so. My aunts especially. They're just amazing people that everyone loves.
I'm the anti social hermit that just latches onto them to elevate my status.
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Post by andi9899 on Nov 20, 2019 13:20:44 GMT -5
My family has a little of everything. Adopted children of other races, interracial marriages...and then there's my black cousin that gave birth to a little blue eyed red head. LOL My uncle came out as gay 20 years ago after he raised a family of five kids and then divorced. Everyone in our family loves his partner (actually way more than we did his wife). I have a picture on my desk of my kids at older son's birthday party a few years back and he's standing next to his black cousins and his Chinese siblings. We're all family, nothing less. That people put some much negative energy into this is a bit mind boggling to me.
My favorite aunt is a lesbian and I have a few cousins that are gay. Some of my family is very religious so they think it is a sin but they also accept them and love them. Not sure if that makes sense. They really pray to "take the gay away" (lol) but also love them at the same time. I've been around gay people my entire life so I have no issues with it. My half-sister is married to a black man and has two gorgeous, bi-racial nieces. As far as I know, no one has a problem with her husband or children. Her husband is a very successful person who adores his family. Not sure why anyone who have a problem with that. Sadly, I'm not naïve and I'm sure there are asshats out there that do. I just hope they aren't in my family. Men dressing as women I have a problem with. In a cabaret show I am fine with it. Story hour with small children, my children wouldn't be attending. What's the difference between them dressing up as a woman and dressing up as any other character? ETA: If the same men were dressed as Disney characters would you not allow your children to go?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 13:33:53 GMT -5
My favorite aunt is a lesbian and I have a few cousins that are gay. Some of my family is very religious so they think it is a sin but they also accept them and love them. Not sure if that makes sense. They really pray to "take the gay away" (lol) but also love them at the same time. I've been around gay people my entire life so I have no issues with it. My half-sister is married to a black man and has two gorgeous, bi-racial nieces. As far as I know, no one has a problem with her husband or children. Her husband is a very successful person who adores his family. Not sure why anyone who have a problem with that. Sadly, I'm not naïve and I'm sure there are asshats out there that do. I just hope they aren't in my family. Men dressing as women I have a problem with. In a cabaret show I am fine with it. Story hour with small children, my children wouldn't be attending. What's the difference between them dressing up as a woman and dressing up as any other character? ETA: If the same men were dressed as Disney characters would you not allow your children to go? If they were dressed in a men's character costume, no problem. I will not buy into "men are women" so no, my kids would not be going. We are trying to normalize behavior that I do not believe to be normal. I know that I am in the minority on this board...I'm used to it!
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Post by andi9899 on Nov 20, 2019 13:42:03 GMT -5
What's the difference between them dressing up as a woman and dressing up as any other character? ETA: If the same men were dressed as Disney characters would you not allow your children to go? If they were dressed in a men's character costume, no problem. I will not buy into "men are women" so no, my kids would not be going. We are trying to normalize behavior that I do not believe to be normal. I know that I am in the minority on this board...I'm used to it! So as long as they dressed as Mickey Mouse instead of Minnie, it's ok? How would you tell under the huge foam head? I have known queens and been to drag shows. Some of them you would never know where men. And what isn't normal about a person wearing a dress instead of pants? I assume you only walk around in dresses regardless of the weather then? You never wear any of your BF's clothes? You always have a full face of makeup on? Otherwise by your logic you would be abnormal.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2019 13:42:52 GMT -5
What's the difference between them dressing up as a woman and dressing up as any other character? ETA: If the same men were dressed as Disney characters would you not allow your children to go? If they were dressed in a men's character costume, no problem. I will not buy into "men are women" so no, my kids would not be going. We are trying to normalize behavior that I do not believe to be normal. I know that I am in the minority on this board...I'm used to it! At Disney World men are just as likely to be in the Minnie Mouse and Daisy Duck costumes as women (and women in the male characters). They swap constantly among those that are the right height for each one.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 13:50:16 GMT -5
If they were dressed in a men's character costume, no problem. I will not buy into "men are women" so no, my kids would not be going. We are trying to normalize behavior that I do not believe to be normal. I know that I am in the minority on this board...I'm used to it! At Disney World men are just as likely to be in the Minnie Mouse and Daisy Duck costumes as women (and women in the male characters). They swap constantly among those that are the right height for each one. If a man showed up in a princess dress with heels and make-up for kids story, I would have an issue.
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Post by weltschmerz on Nov 20, 2019 13:53:53 GMT -5
What's the difference between them dressing up as a woman and dressing up as any other character? ETA: If the same men were dressed as Disney characters would you not allow your children to go? If they were dressed in a men's character costume, no problem. I will not buy into "men are women" so no, my kids would not be going. We are trying to normalize behavior that I do not believe to be normal. I know that I am in the minority on this board...I'm used to it! If you're trying to "normalize behaviour", then you would keep your kids away from your gay relatives? Some people are homosexual. Some people are lesbian. Some people are cross dressers, trans, or drag queens. How about men who are dressed as Cher or Marilyn Monroe? Those are character costumes.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 13:57:56 GMT -5
If they were dressed in a men's character costume, no problem. I will not buy into "men are women" so no, my kids would not be going. We are trying to normalize behavior that I do not believe to be normal. I know that I am in the minority on this board...I'm used to it! So as long as they dressed as Mickey Mouse instead of Minnie, it's ok? How would you tell under the huge foam head? I have known queens and been to drag shows. Some of them you would never know where men. And what isn't normal about a person wearing a dress instead of pants? I assume you only walk around in dresses regardless of the weather then? You never wear any of your BF's clothes? You always have a full face of makeup on? Otherwise by your logic you would be abnormal. You can nit pick apart my views but men are not princesses. Men look ridiculous dressed as woman and worse, when they actually think they are women. I actually do not wear my boyfriends clothes. I would be swimming in his clothes and look ridiculous. He also doesn't wear feminine cut jeans so even if they weren't huge on me, they would certainly not be a style that I would wear. He dressed like a guy, not a female so I have never worn his clothes out of the house. I will snag a zip-up if I'm cold in the house, as he keeps several in the downstairs closet. But I don't leave the house in them. And her certainly wouldn't wear any of my skirts or dresses, even if they fit him. I am a person that almost always has a full face of make-up on when leaving the house. It's how I was raised and I feel messy if my hair and make-up aren't done. But are you saying all women must wear make-up or they are manly?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 14:00:16 GMT -5
If they were dressed in a men's character costume, no problem. I will not buy into "men are women" so no, my kids would not be going. We are trying to normalize behavior that I do not believe to be normal. I know that I am in the minority on this board...I'm used to it! If you're trying to "normalize behaviour", then you would keep your kids away from your gay relatives? Some people are homosexual. Some people are lesbian. Some people are cross dressers, trans, or drag queens. How about men who are dressed as Cher or Marilyn Monroe? Those are character costumes. People do not walk around in character costumes. It is only the last few years that we are being forced to try to normalize men thinking they are women. Putting them in female locker rooms and letting them beat women on female teams. You might think it is normal and be ok with all of it, but I don't. I never will be.
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Post by weltschmerz on Nov 20, 2019 14:03:27 GMT -5
If you're trying to "normalize behaviour", then you would keep your kids away from your gay relatives? Some people are homosexual. Some people are lesbian. Some people are cross dressers, trans, or drag queens. How about men who are dressed as Cher or Marilyn Monroe? Those are character costumes. People do not walk around in character costumes. It is only the last few years that we are being forced to try to normalize men thinking they are women. Putting them in female locker rooms and letting them beat women on female teams. You might think it is normal and be ok with all of it, but I don't. I never will be. Being homosexual or lesbian wasn't considered "normal" until recently. Again, would you let your kids be around your gay relatives, like your lesbian aunt? After all, your kids night see a PDA with another woman.
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 20, 2019 14:04:58 GMT -5
Geez my family doesn’t paw their partners in front of everyone else, does everyone else’s?
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Post by weltschmerz on Nov 20, 2019 14:07:01 GMT -5
Geez my family doesn’t paw their partners in front of everyone else, does everyone else’s? Husbands and wives don't kiss each other in front of family? Ever?
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 20, 2019 14:09:49 GMT -5
Not in my family. We were raised that only insecure people make public spectacles out of themselves. If you’re confident in your relationship and who you are, then you don’t need to prove it to others.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 14:13:01 GMT -5
People do not walk around in character costumes. It is only the last few years that we are being forced to try to normalize men thinking they are women. Putting them in female locker rooms and letting them beat women on female teams. You might think it is normal and be ok with all of it, but I don't. I never will be. Being homosexual or lesbian wasn't considered "normal" until recently. Again, would you let your kids be around your gay relatives, like your lesbian aunt? After all, your kids night see a PDA with another woman. My aunt and her friends are extremely respectful and do not go around making out in front of everyone. I don't walk around making out with my BF, why would they be any different?
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Nov 20, 2019 14:13:16 GMT -5
My mom and her siblings found a long lost sibling through Ancestry.com. They knew he was out there from court records from my brother that was put up for adoption had on him when he found us, but there was no info on him as it was a closed adoption. It just said baby boy born to X on this date in this city.
Earlier this year he just popped up on our family tree right where he fit in as a half sibling and my uncle contacted him. Now he's on all our Facebook accounts and has come to some family stuff and is on the Christmas card lists for those that do that kind of thing. We just assimilate people. I found three half siblings via an Ancestry DNA test. I'd always known that my father had remarried and raised another family, but he never told his new family about my sister and I. One of them contacted me when she saw the results. We've become about as close as half sibs can when they've spent a lifetime apart. Getting to know them has enriched my life (and, I hope, theirs as well). They came up for Christmas last year (they live in another state about a 5 hour flight). It was really nice. It's been really interesting to discover so many things we have in common and to see the physical resemblemblance
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 20, 2019 14:16:21 GMT -5
My mom and her siblings found a long lost sibling through Ancestry.com. They knew he was out there from court records from my brother that was put up for adoption had on him when he found us, but there was no info on him as it was a closed adoption. It just said baby boy born to X on this date in this city.
Earlier this year he just popped up on our family tree right where he fit in as a half sibling and my uncle contacted him. Now he's on all our Facebook accounts and has come to some family stuff and is on the Christmas card lists for those that do that kind of thing. We just assimilate people. I found three half siblings via an Ancestry DNA test. I'd always known that my father had remarried and raised another family, but he never told his new family about my sister and I. One of them contacted me when she saw the results. We've become about as close as half sibs can when they've spent a lifetime apart. Getting to know them has enriched my life (and, I hope, theirs as well). They came up for Christmas last year (they live in another state about a 5 hour flight). It was really nice. It's been really interesting to discover so many things we have in common and to see the physical resemblemblance That’s wonderful. I was sure I’d find some half siblings. My dad was a player before he got married, he was 46 when he married my mom. I was sure he’d gotten some woman or women pregnant over the years. Nothing so far.
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Post by weltschmerz on Nov 20, 2019 14:16:42 GMT -5
Being homosexual or lesbian wasn't considered "normal" until recently. Again, would you let your kids be around your gay relatives, like your lesbian aunt? After all, your kids night see a PDA with another woman. My aunt and her friends are extremely respectful and do not go around making out in front of everyone. I don't walk around making out with my BF, why would they be any different? Giving each other a light kiss is a world away from "making out".
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Post by zibazinski on Nov 20, 2019 14:21:20 GMT -5
Why would you need to? Your partner doesn’t know how you feel? Even though we have gay and lesbian neighbors, they behave as politely as our heterosexual ones. If we have any cross dressers, they keep it private. Even at Halloween.
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Post by swamp on Nov 20, 2019 14:23:50 GMT -5
Turns out I'm 94% Scots-Irish; 4% English; 2% Norwegian. My daily moisturizer contains SPF 50 . hahaha...I want to take the test to confirm my ancestory, but you've seen my picture. I need to share your SPF50!lol I'm mostly Scotch-Irish, but I tan really well. I am 1% Native and 1% Italian, so maybe that explains my skin. I would think from the results I would be translucent.
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Post by weltschmerz on Nov 20, 2019 14:36:33 GMT -5
Why would you need to? Your partner doesn’t know how you feel? Even though we have gay and lesbian neighbors, they behave as politely as our heterosexual ones. If we have any cross dressers, they keep it private. Even at Halloween. I understand. A person who kisses his wife in public is some kind of pervert, but a man who cheated on all three of his wives is someone to vote for.
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Post by andi9899 on Nov 20, 2019 14:45:07 GMT -5
So as long as they dressed as Mickey Mouse instead of Minnie, it's ok? How would you tell under the huge foam head? I have known queens and been to drag shows. Some of them you would never know where men. And what isn't normal about a person wearing a dress instead of pants? I assume you only walk around in dresses regardless of the weather then? You never wear any of your BF's clothes? You always have a full face of makeup on? Otherwise by your logic you would be abnormal. You can nit pick apart my views but men are not princesses. Men look ridiculous dressed as woman and worse, when they actually think they are women. I actually do not wear my boyfriends clothes. I would be swimming in his clothes and look ridiculous. He also doesn't wear feminine cut jeans so even if they weren't huge on me, they would certainly not be a style that I would wear. He dressed like a guy, not a female so I have never worn his clothes out of the house. I will snag a zip-up if I'm cold in the house, as he keeps several in the downstairs closet. But I don't leave the house in them. And her certainly wouldn't wear any of my skirts or dresses, even if they fit him. I am a person that almost always has a full face of make-up on when leaving the house. It's how I was raised and I feel messy if my hair and make-up aren't done. But are you saying all women must wear make-up or they are manly? How am I nit picking? I'm asking for clarification. And I wasn't asking about how your BF dresses. I was asking about you. So you wear dresses year around because that's how women dress? I mean, if men can't wear dresses, then you wearing pants would be abnormal. Right? And I've never said women that don't wear makeup were manly. My mom and sister probably don't even own makeup since they never wear it. I wear a full face of makeup every day. Not because I was raised that way, but because I'm a makeup addict. I also have my hair neatly done every day. I was raised in a traditional Catholic Mexican family. I was taught to love all of God's children. You apparently were not.
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Post by hoops902 on Nov 20, 2019 14:53:19 GMT -5
I don't really get a lot of the "crossdressing". It seems pretty straightforward in some cases I suppose...a man dresses up in a fancy dress and wears makeup and hair in a "womanly" way. If my wife and I both wear a t-shirt and jeans with some sneakers...which one of us is crossdressing to look like the opposite sex though? Can a woman ever REALLY "dress" as a man? I mean I know there are female crossdressers...but given that women seem to be able to pretty much wear anything...how can you tell (meaning specifically, how can you tell if you aren't at a show where someone is painting on facial hair or something, which isn't really crossdressing because it's not the dressing that does it)? Like what clothing a woman put on that would be a big flashing red light that they are a crossdresser and not just randomly wearing their normal clothes?
It seems like in reality it's a lot of "women can just wear whatever, it's fine, but men should always look a certain way (or maybe more specifically, should NEVER look a certain way)".
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Post by andi9899 on Nov 20, 2019 14:53:51 GMT -5
Geez my family doesn’t paw their partners in front of everyone else, does everyone else’s? There is a huge difference between holding hands or a peck on the cheek/lips and full on making out. I kiss my grandma, doesn't mean we're groping each other.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 14:54:45 GMT -5
hahaha...I want to take the test to confirm my ancestory, but you've seen my picture. I need to share your SPF50!lol I'm mostly Scotch-Irish, but I tan really well. I am 1% Native and 1% Italian, so maybe that explains my skin. I would think from the results I would be translucent. I only know what I've been told so I would love to see what really shows up. I'm pasty as pasty can get!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 14:57:56 GMT -5
I don't really get a lot of the "crossdressing". It seems pretty straightforward in some cases I suppose...a man dresses up in a fancy dress and wears makeup and hair in a "womanly" way. If my wife and I both wear a t-shirt and jeans with some sneakers...which one of us is crossdressing to look like the opposite sex though? Can a woman ever REALLY "dress" as a man? I mean I know there are female crossdressers...but given that women seem to be able to pretty much wear anything...how can you tell (meaning specifically, how can you tell if you aren't at a show where someone is painting on facial hair or something, which isn't really crossdressing because it's not the dressing that does it)? Like what clothing a woman put on that would be a big flashing red light that they are a crossdresser and not just randomly wearing their normal clothes? It seems like in reality it's a lot of "women can just wear whatever, it's fine, but men should always look a certain way (or maybe more specifically, should NEVER look a certain way)". I think there are some clothes that women would wear that would be obvious male clothing. I'm thinking suits, tuxedos, speedos (lol) etc. But yeah, other than my BF's hoodies and zip-ups being huge on me, there really isn't a huge difference between those and if I bought women's hoodies or zip-ups way too big. I prefer to wear fitted sweatshirts because I think the big, loose ones look sloppy, but women's sweatshirts do come in the same shape as men's.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 15:01:16 GMT -5
You can nit pick apart my views but men are not princesses. Men look ridiculous dressed as woman and worse, when they actually think they are women. I actually do not wear my boyfriends clothes. I would be swimming in his clothes and look ridiculous. He also doesn't wear feminine cut jeans so even if they weren't huge on me, they would certainly not be a style that I would wear. He dressed like a guy, not a female so I have never worn his clothes out of the house. I will snag a zip-up if I'm cold in the house, as he keeps several in the downstairs closet. But I don't leave the house in them. And her certainly wouldn't wear any of my skirts or dresses, even if they fit him. I am a person that almost always has a full face of make-up on when leaving the house. It's how I was raised and I feel messy if my hair and make-up aren't done. But are you saying all women must wear make-up or they are manly? How am I nit picking? I'm asking for clarification. And I wasn't asking about how your BF dresses. I was asking about you. So you wear dresses year around because that's how women dress? I mean, if men can't wear dresses, then you wearing pants would be abnormal. Right? And I've never said women that don't wear makeup were manly. My mom and sister probably don't even own makeup since they never wear it. I wear a full face of makeup every day. Not because I was raised that way, but because I'm a makeup addict. I also have my hair neatly done every day. I was raised in a traditional Catholic Mexican family. I was taught to love all of God's children. You apparently were not. I'm not Catholic or Mexican. I'm also Agnostic. I was taught to love the mentally ill but not accept their illness as the norm. I can respect someone as a person but still think they need help. If my daughter was anorexic, I would still love her but I would get her help. I would not buy into her illness that made her think she was fat. I wouldn't take her shopping in the fat section as stores just because that is what she believed. If she thought she was a man, I would still love her but I would not humor her and tell her that she was suddenly a man. You mistake loving someone with buying into their delusions. I do not.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 20, 2019 15:03:01 GMT -5
You can nit pick apart my views but men are not princesses. Men look ridiculous dressed as woman and worse, when they actually think they are women. I actually do not wear my boyfriends clothes. I would be swimming in his clothes and look ridiculous. He also doesn't wear feminine cut jeans so even if they weren't huge on me, they would certainly not be a style that I would wear. He dressed like a guy, not a female so I have never worn his clothes out of the house. I will snag a zip-up if I'm cold in the house, as he keeps several in the downstairs closet. But I don't leave the house in them. And her certainly wouldn't wear any of my skirts or dresses, even if they fit him. I am a person that almost always has a full face of make-up on when leaving the house. It's how I was raised and I feel messy if my hair and make-up aren't done. But are you saying all women must wear make-up or they are manly? How am I nit picking? I'm asking for clarification. And I wasn't asking about how your BF dresses. I was asking about you. So you wear dresses year around because that's how women dress? I mean, if men can't wear dresses, then you wearing pants would be abnormal. Right? And I've never said women that don't wear makeup were manly. My mom and sister probably don't even own makeup since they never wear it. I wear a full face of makeup every day. Not because I was raised that way, but because I'm a makeup addict. I also have my hair neatly done every day. I was raised in a traditional Catholic Mexican family. I was taught to love all of God's children. You apparently were not. I forgot to respond to your first question. It isn't abnormal for women to wear pants. Women have been wearing pants for years.
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Post by hoops902 on Nov 20, 2019 15:11:41 GMT -5
How am I nit picking? I'm asking for clarification. And I wasn't asking about how your BF dresses. I was asking about you. So you wear dresses year around because that's how women dress? I mean, if men can't wear dresses, then you wearing pants would be abnormal. Right? And I've never said women that don't wear makeup were manly. My mom and sister probably don't even own makeup since they never wear it. I wear a full face of makeup every day. Not because I was raised that way, but because I'm a makeup addict. I also have my hair neatly done every day. I was raised in a traditional Catholic Mexican family. I was taught to love all of God's children. You apparently were not. I'm not Catholic or Mexican. I'm also Agnostic. I was taught to love the mentally ill but not accept their illness as the norm. I can respect someone as a person but still think they need help. If my daughter was anorexic, I would still love her but I would get her help. I would not buy into her illness that made her think she was fat. I wouldn't take her shopping in the fat section as stores just because that is what she believed. If she thought she was a man, I would still love her but I would not humor her and tell her that she was suddenly a man. You mistake loving someone with buying into their delusions. I do not. I'm genuinely curious, how are you lumping in "crossdressing" (or are you?). I fully understand your position on transgender (i.e. you are the gender that corresponds to your biology, or equating the 2, or whatever). I'm not sure I'm following your position on "I'm a man, i was born a man, i like wearing dresses because they're comfortable or I think I look good in them or whatever". I'm attempting to separate out the "character" aspect. There are men who are drag queens, for which the dress/makeup/etc is a "costume". They are performers playing a part in a show, and I think the costume comparison is a good one. But there are also "crossdressers" which are not the same thing. It's not a costume or an additional character, it's just choosing to wear clothing that's typically associated with another gender. I get the impression that outside of drag queens, you wouldn't have a different opinion if it were a man, who identified as a man, and who just enjoyed wearing dresses, or skirts, or heels...and was there reading a book. Is it just because you have decided that you think those things are "female". It can't be because you just don't think it looks good, because God forbid any of us start avoiding places because people don't look good there or none of us would ever leave the house. Side question, is there anything a woman could be wearing that wasn't inappropriate in terms of showing skin, that would make you avoid it because the clothing was inappropriate? (I know in a previous entry you said suits and tuxes for females in terms of crossdressing, would you not take a child to the library because a woman was reading a book while wearing a suit?).
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Post by andi9899 on Nov 20, 2019 15:26:50 GMT -5
How am I nit picking? I'm asking for clarification. And I wasn't asking about how your BF dresses. I was asking about you. So you wear dresses year around because that's how women dress? I mean, if men can't wear dresses, then you wearing pants would be abnormal. Right? And I've never said women that don't wear makeup were manly. My mom and sister probably don't even own makeup since they never wear it. I wear a full face of makeup every day. Not because I was raised that way, but because I'm a makeup addict. I also have my hair neatly done every day. I was raised in a traditional Catholic Mexican family. I was taught to love all of God's children. You apparently were not. I'm not Catholic or Mexican. I'm also Agnostic. I was taught to love the mentally ill but not accept their illness as the norm. I can respect someone as a person but still think they need help. If my daughter was anorexic, I would still love her but I would get her help. I would not buy into her illness that made her think she was fat. I wouldn't take her shopping in the fat section as stores just because that is what she believed. If she thought she was a man, I would still love her but I would not humor her and tell her that she was suddenly a man. You mistake loving someone with buying into their delusions. I do not. So drag queens are mentally ill? Says who? You? And there is a huge difference between actually being sick such as your example of anorexia and liking to entertain and wear dresses. Drag queens can choose not to dress in drag and usually do when they're not entertaining. An anorexic person is not able to just shut the anorexia off. You're grasping at straws and comparing apples and oranges to try and defend the foolishness you are spewing. Typical.
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