TheOtherMe
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 30, 2019 10:56:03 GMT -5
During my working days, I worse the same pair of shoes several days a week. I could not wear heels because they hurt my feet so bad.
In the days of when I had to wear dresses to work, I had some business suits and some dresses or skirts and blouses. I could maybe have gone a week and a half without wearing the same thing twice.
I never thought about it.
I'm sorry your parents instilled such fear in you.
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Artemis Windsong
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Jun 30, 2019 13:42:45 GMT -5
I have way more clothes than I need. I need to slim myself down so more of them fit nicely. I started liking pretty tunics. I have 2 L/S and ordered 2 S/S. I couldn't find women's linen shorts that look nice and are affordable, so I ordered men's, affordable. I ordered a packable down jacket. I do not need it. I flipped a coin for yellow or purple. Purple side won.
When I quit working I got rid of all my work clothes and then went back to work. I bought basic suits of slacks, jacket and skirt in neutral colors. I am keeping them. FOREVER. So I don't go back to work. My tennis outfits work out the best for me. I usually feel out of place with clothes for many outings. When I played golf, I thought I was the only one this old woman bullied about my clothing. Nope. She even bullied her best playing buddies. She expected a new shirt every week from them.
We needed the wisdom of. A gift is a gift only when it is accepted. If refused, the giver keeps it and it's not a gift. Same thoughts works for being given a hard time or insulted.
My snowmobile clothes are becoming obsolete because we started winter travel to warmer climates. I have 4 sweaters that I cannot part with. I travel with a black suit. Always appropriate and too many times I have gone to a funeral.
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laterbloomer
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Post by laterbloomer on Jun 30, 2019 22:56:18 GMT -5
Not wearing anything twice a month is a very interesting concept to me. Can I ask where that came from? I can't imagine being able to keep that straight. I've never had much of a sense of style which makes it easier to keep a smaller closet. When I got a job hostessing in highschool and had to dress nice I went out and bought the most minimal capsule wardrobe I could. Probably 7 pieces total. Right when I started to worry that I always wore the same clothes/outfits, a well put together coworker complimented my wardrobe and that I never wore the same thing. I was floored, and probably took the minimalism a little too extreme for a while. But decided most people aren't paying enough attention to me to notice how frequently I cycle through my simple garments. It's a rule in my head. I don't know specifically where it came from. If I try to explain it, I do realize that it doesn't have logic behind it. There's the theory that (I realize that this is not reality.) wearing the same clothes over and over again indicates poverty. If I only have five work outfits and rotate them through week after week, then someone will judge me for that. I don't ever wear the same pair of shoes two days in a row; I never wear the same pair of work shoes within one week. I don't want to give anyone a reason to pay attention to me, so if someone were to notice that I was consistently wearing the same outfits over and over and over, I would feel harshly judged. My mother is hardly judemental, and my father literally had plaque that was engraved with "Anything less than perfection is failure." I had to make sure I wasn't failing. I have to make sure that I'm good enough.
I actually have work outfits down to a bit of a science though in the sense of not repeating but not having to keep track to stingily:
Monday: dress/cardigan Tuesday: slacks/work polo Wednesday: skirt/cardigan Thursday: skirt/blouse not a cardigan Friday: nice jeans/blazer or cardiganI like that method. I have to develop something like that myself.
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giramomma
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Post by giramomma on Jun 30, 2019 23:14:34 GMT -5
It's a rule in my head. I don't know specifically where it came from. If I try to explain it, I do realize that it doesn't have logic behind it. There's the theory that (I realize that this is not reality.) wearing the same clothes over and over again indicates poverty. If I only have five work outfits and rotate them through week after week, then someone will judge me for that. I don't ever wear the same pair of shoes two days in a row; I never wear the same pair of work shoes within one week. I don't want to give anyone a reason to pay attention to me, so if someone were to notice that I was consistently wearing the same outfits over and over and over, I would feel harshly judged. My mother is hardly judemental, and my father literally had plaque that was engraved with "Anything less than perfection is failure." I had to make sure I wasn't failing. I have to make sure that I'm good enough.
I'm sorry. That really sucks.
We all are good enough, no matter if we have 8 outfits or 30.
I also might suggest that if someone has enough time on their hands that they can remember everyone's outfits, then perhaps there might not be enough work or them to justify keeping them around. There are five of us on our team. Six if you count our supervisor. I promise with my work load, I'm not making sure I actually *see* these folks daily and I'm not keeping track of their wardrobes.
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Post by tskeeter on Jul 1, 2019 0:16:23 GMT -5
Not wearing anything twice a month is a very interesting concept to me. Can I ask where that came from? I can't imagine being able to keep that straight. I've never had much of a sense of style which makes it easier to keep a smaller closet. When I got a job hostessing in highschool and had to dress nice I went out and bought the most minimal capsule wardrobe I could. Probably 7 pieces total. Right when I started to worry that I always wore the same clothes/outfits, a well put together coworker complimented my wardrobe and that I never wore the same thing. I was floored, and probably took the minimalism a little too extreme for a while. But decided most people aren't paying enough attention to me to notice how frequently I cycle through my simple garments. It's a rule in my head. I don't know specifically where it came from. If I try to explain it, I do realize that it doesn't have logic behind it. There's the theory that (I realize that this is not reality.) wearing the same clothes over and over again indicates poverty. If I only have five work outfits and rotate them through week after week, then someone will judge me for that. I don't ever wear the same pair of shoes two days in a row; I never wear the same pair of work shoes within one week. I don't want to give anyone a reason to pay attention to me, so if someone were to notice that I was consistently wearing the same outfits over and over and over, I would feel harshly judged. My mother is hardly judemental, and my father literally had plaque that was engraved with "Anything less than perfection is failure." I had to make sure I wasn't failing. I have to make sure that I'm good enough.
I actually have work outfits down to a bit of a science though in the sense of not repeating but not having to keep track to stingily:
Monday: dress/cardigan Tuesday: slacks/work polo Wednesday: skirt/cardigan Thursday: skirt/blouse not a cardigan Friday: nice jeans/blazer or cardiganOr, you could adopt a decision simplifying wardrobe strategy. Multiples of the same thing. Spend no time composing an outfit for the day. Or shopping for just the right wardrobe piece. Simply order more of the same. My staff used to refer to my blue button down oxfordcloth shirt and khaki Dockers as “Skeeterwear”.
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