Happy Fathers Day?

[tractor]

What is it about Fathers Day that just doesn’t seem right? Most dads don’t want gifts, most kids don’t care, or remember, overall it’s just another day with false hopes and expectations attached to an opportunity to have a sale.

Sure once your fathers gone, you try to remember him today, but does that me you don’t remember him any other day? Of course not. Most dads don’t wait for some special day to buy what they want/need, so anything other than a handmade gift from a young child seems to be just another excuse to buy something that won’t get used.

I think it’s time we end this nonsense, same with Mothers Day, Grandparents Day, pet rabbit day...you get my point. Instead, let’s treat everyday like loved ones day, or humanity day, help others day, or co-exist day. I think you understand.

This post brought to you from a gloomy, rainy spot in Michigan, from someone who’s tired of what society has become and just wants to be left alone. 😐

[andi9899]

I'm sorry you feel that way and that your day is gloomy. I do wish you a good father's day regardless.

[andi9899]

Happy father's day to all the other dads as well. Anyone can make a baby. Not everyone can be a decent parent. Those of you that are involved and are trying to raise good people get all my respect. Have a great day!

[TheOtherMe]

Happy Father's Day.  My dad enjoys his day to be celebrated.  Sister is on vacation so it will be DN3 and me who visit him today.

His days are long and lonely since mom died.  He deserves his day.  

He and mom raised two decent human beings and helped give their grandchildren good starts in life.

Dad also taught his daughters and his four grandchildren to play and enjoy cribbage.  There will be cribbage today.

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

Sorry, tractor. I hope you feel better soon. How's your son doing post-surgery?

I agree there's a lot of hype, and it's not often achievable to meet the hype. 


Also, I love cribbage.

[Tennesseer]

I'm okay with young kids buying their dads mostly useless gifts for Father's Day.  I think most dads accept these gifts with amusement.

I think simply sending a Hallmark card and that being the only acknowledgement dad gets that day is a waste of money.  A personal visit or phone call that particular day (in addition to frequent visits and phone calls other days of the year) are mostly appreciated.

As both of my parents are dead, I do think of them often regardless of whether it is Mother's or Father's Day.

Having said that, why is it many people take mom out for dinner on Mother's Day but want dad to BBQ for the family on Father's Day. 

[wvugurl26]

My dad's gift is wrapped. Gift card to Lowe's and his favorite candy. Both will be appreciated and used. He's still trying to finish the bathroom remodel.

DH's dad will get theater tickets later this month when I can purchase them. We have a season package and he went through the list and there's one he wants to see. I'll get them on our night so they don't have to drive into the city.

[kadee79]

My parents are gone to Tenn.  My mother when I was 4-5 & my Dad when I was 15....so I've always said that those who till have them during their younger years are lucky.  Love them like there is no tomorrow...cause there may not be.

[Artemis Windsong]

Beyond the commercialism, we get together to have a pot luck meal and play games.  My son has a lovely home and acreage where we can play, eat, socialize and forget everything for a while.  What do we play, frisbee, basketball, ladder whatever that thing is called.  Corn hole.  Beach balls to toss and kick.  Everyone happily gets along.  No alcohol.

A wonderful day.  The summer holidays are the best.

How is your son recovering?  We do wish both of you the very best.

[Jake 48]

Happy Fathers Day to all.
 I'm tired of trying, my kids all in their 30's still don't get it. DW and I always tried to set a good example, work, personal accountability, being a productive member of society, moderation in what you do, take the high road etc. DSD doesn't pay her bills, ( car registration is getting suspended) DS #1, quit a position in the fire service because he feels he was picked on ( I've been in the fire service for 34 years and have been prepping him for what to expect and how to react) DS#2,  seems I only hear from him when he is looking for something. 

Maybe its just me and they're still finding their way

[msventoux]

Just be a complete ass and no one will celebrate Father’s Day around you.

My father never remembered our birthdays, bitched about wasting money on us at Christmas and is just generally a miserable jackass. I don’t recall anyone in the family ever doing anything for him for Father’s Day.

[Tennesseer]

Family dynamics are interesting.


And remember: You can pick your friends but you cannot pick your families.

[TheOtherMe]

Dad did enjoy his day.  Lunch at Dairy Queen (it's the only place he wants to go) and cribbage.  For gifts he received Dairy Queen gift cards.  There is nothing he truly needs and he doesn't need useless gifts that we will have to get rid of when he passes.

[Apple]

My dad got a call, and I'll drop off a few bags of homemade pie crust mixes (he requests them for gift-giving occasions) and a skillet handle pot holder I knit for him (uses cast iron) on Tuesday, since I don't plan to leave the house before then.

I'm not a big "holiday" person, but I at least try to remember to pick up the phone (my problem is that I never remember the holiday.  Dropped a mint plant I dug up for my mom two Sundays before Mother's Day last year because I thought it was that day.)

[toomuchreality]

tractor,  does your family know how you feel about these holidays?  Have you always felt this way, or is it just this year, while your son is having issues taken care of?  How's he doing?   -I guess I should go read the other thread and see if there's an update.  (Brilliant. I know!)

If it gives a family a reason to get together when they wouldn't otherwise, I'm all for it. Although I do agree that treating people well throughout the year is preferrable.  Some people just don't take, or make time to visit unless there's a holiday.  Others are only nice on holidays. Sad.


I hope you dads and granddads have enjoyed the day!   

[andi9899]

Jun 16, 2019 10:31:34 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

I'm okay with young kids buying their dads mostly useless gifts for Father's Day.  I think most dads accept these gifts with amusement.

I think simply sending a Hallmark card and that being the only acknowledgement dad gets that day is a waste of money.  A personal visit or phone call that particular day (in addition to frequent visits and phone calls other days of the year) are mostly appreciated.

As both of my parents are dead, I do think of them often regardless of whether it is Mother's or Father's Day.

Having said that, why is it many people take mom out for dinner on Mother's Day but want dad to BBQ for the family on Father's Day. 

We took dad out for father's day this year. Usually both mothers and fathers days are at my grandma's house. On mother's day grandpa grills. On father's day grandma cooks. It's always been that way. This year my aunt decided she was cooking for father's day. My aunt's a royal bitch who can't cook. We didn't go. My mom did so she could see her dad, but that was it. My grandpa lives next door to me, so I can see him whenever I want.

[resolution]

We typically don't exchange gifts for mother's day or father's day, mostly because they buy anything that they want as soon as they want it.

On my husband's side of the family we all got together and went to a dance recital for my 5 year old niece. Then we went out to dinner afterwards.  On my side of the family, I just called them and chatted because they live on the other side of the country. My sister had a gathering at her house.

[plugginaway22]

I sort of get Tractor's feelings of being unnecessary.  For me, May and June are packed with birthdays, anniversaries, Mother's Day and by the time Father's Day gets here, I am tired of thinking of things to do for people, ha-ha.  And this all equates to tons of family togetherness and buying stuff or giving money, when we see each other a lot all year long.  At the bare minimum my Father gets a card and a phone call, usually a baked treat of some kind.