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Post by TheHaitian on Apr 15, 2019 8:01:28 GMT -5
Lately this has been really annoying me more and more because it seems to be happening more and more:
When has it become socially acceptable to have a whole conversation on speaker phone?
I do not care nor do I want to listen to your whole conversation! Like come on! Wether in the break room, supermarket, in line at checkout and now in the waiting room at the Dr office.
Put some headphones/speakers on! I was at Starbucks the other day and this girl was having a meltdown because her boyfriend was breaking up with her through FaceTime and it was on the loud freaking speakers. One person (after 5 minutes of awkwardness) got up and offered her his own headphones.
It is annoying enough to listen to you having a conversation, I do not need to also listen to the rebuttal or other person. Even worse when the person has no clue or self awareness to how freaking loud they are.
Sorry just annoyed right now!
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Post by hoops902 on Apr 15, 2019 8:25:17 GMT -5
How is a speaker any different than listening to 2 people in person having a conversation?
I mean, I don't want either to be super loud, or inappropriate, or whatever...but I don't see a speaker conversation as any different from the listener's perspective as hearing 2 people who are there in person engaging in a conversation (I have other issues with it, like making sure everyone knows they're on speaker, but I don't have a particular issue with the fact that I'm listening to a conversation over a speaker vs in-person).
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2019 8:30:18 GMT -5
How is a speaker any different than listening to 2 people in person having a conversation? I mean, I don't want either to be super loud, or inappropriate, or whatever...but I don't see a speaker conversation as any different from the listener's perspective as hearing 2 people who are there in person engaging in a conversation (I have other issues with it, like making sure everyone knows they're on speaker, but I don't have a particular issue with the fact that I'm listening to a conversation over a speaker vs in-person). It's different. It's annoying as hell overhearing conversations on speakerphone. For one thing, it's harder to hear someone when you're talking on speakerphone so people are always talking louder than they normally would if they were just speaking into the phone. Whenever one of my cube neighbors puts their phone on speaker I want to kill them. I had one that used to do conference calls on speakerphone. So grateful she moved to another area. That was maddening.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Apr 15, 2019 8:32:13 GMT -5
There's a person in the cube across from me that doesn't understand what headphones are for. I think it's rude to have your two hour conference call on speaker phone. I don't want to listen to five different people talking for two hours. Either book a conference room, go in your manager's office or use headphones.
It might be different if it were two people but none of the ones I'm subjected to at work are between two people. It's a minimum of 4-5. I think it's rude and inconsiderate. Other people are trying to work and have conversations. When the person I'm on the phone with can hear the conference call you are rude.
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Post by justme on Apr 15, 2019 10:16:00 GMT -5
I'll sometimes pipe in with my own comments. Or at least mumble them somewhat loudly. But then I'll do that if it's two people being rather loud. I figure if you're talking that loud, you obviously want the opinions of others.
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 15, 2019 10:46:54 GMT -5
I've noticed that there is a certain population of people that automatically talk louder when they are on a cellphone. I don't know if it's a hearing issue or they just assume they need to speak louder. My husband is such a person. If he gets a phone call and we are in public I will send him away to have his conversation. No one in the restaurant cares that the wood flooring for the gym on one side of Long Island accidently got delivered to the gym on the other side of Long Island. Take that crap outside.
We have a pretty small office- 90% of our workforce works either in production or on a road crew. So on a full day there are 6 people in the office. I hate when they use speaker phone. All day long they do this "hey google....." crap. You sit at a computer, just freaking type your question in to google. I don't want to hear how far it is to a jobsite or where is the best place to order goat semen (two co-workers are both hobby farmers)
Seriously- stop with the speaker phones and loud phone conversations.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 15, 2019 11:10:49 GMT -5
I'll sometimes pipe in with my own comments. Or at least mumble them somewhat loudly. But then I'll do that if it's two people being rather loud. I figure if you're talking that loud, you obviously want the opinions of others. One of my real life friends posts about his coffee shop experiences all over the world since he travels for his job. He generally joins the conversation and gives advice. Most don't like it and either go outside to continue the conversation or end it. Once in a while, he gets told he had a good idea.
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Post by justme on Apr 15, 2019 11:26:56 GMT -5
I'll sometimes pipe in with my own comments. Or at least mumble them somewhat loudly. But then I'll do that if it's two people being rather loud. I figure if you're talking that loud, you obviously want the opinions of others. One of my real life friends posts about his coffee shop experiences all over the world since he travels for his job. He generally joins the conversation and gives advice. Most don't like it and either go outside to continue the conversation or end it. Once in a while, he gets told he had a good idea. I'm still waiting for my life to be complete when I stumble across what I've seen in a meme -- getting to yell "it was only a kiss" after someone says it was only a kiss. (A killers song if you don't know)
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 15, 2019 11:40:37 GMT -5
One of my real life friends posts about his coffee shop experiences all over the world since he travels for his job. He generally joins the conversation and gives advice. Most don't like it and either go outside to continue the conversation or end it. Once in a while, he gets told he had a good idea. I'm still waiting for my life to be complete when I stumble across what I've seen in a meme -- getting to yell "it was only a kiss" after someone says it was only a kiss. (A killers song if you don't know) Aaannnddddd..... now that song will be stuck in my head for the rest of the day.
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Post by alabamagal on Apr 16, 2019 9:01:17 GMT -5
My DH talks to his mom on speaker phone. I think it is because he wants to share in his misery. I don’t like my MIL and I really don’t like my DH when he talks to his MIL, so I just ignore as much as I can.
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Post by flamingo on Apr 16, 2019 11:09:21 GMT -5
In a similar vein, I can’t stand when people FaceTime without headphones in public. I’m at the airport and there are 3 different people sitting near me doing this. I keep walking through the frame “photobombing” their FaceTime. I have no idea who I’m waving at, but I wave every time. Not only don’t I want to hear you, I really don’t want to SEE who you are talking to.
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 16, 2019 13:23:32 GMT -5
My DH talks to his mom on speaker phone. I think it is because he wants to share in his misery. I don’t like my MIL and I really don’t like my DH when he talks to his MIL, so I just ignore as much as I can. This is confusing. Why don't you like it if your DH talks to your mom?
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Post by justme on Apr 16, 2019 13:33:14 GMT -5
My DH talks to his mom on speaker phone. I think it is because he wants to share in his misery. I don’t like my MIL and I really don’t like my DH when he talks to his MIL, so I just ignore as much as I can. This is confusing. Why don't you like it if your DH talks to your mom? Because he puts it on speaker phone so she has to the listen to her.
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 16, 2019 13:36:03 GMT -5
This is confusing. Why don't you like it if your DH talks to your mom? Because he puts it on speaker phone so she has to the listen to her. But she doesn't mention not liking her mom, she doesn't like her MIL
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Post by justme on Apr 16, 2019 13:48:15 GMT -5
Because he puts it on speaker phone so she has to the listen to her. But she doesn't mention not liking her mom, she doesn't like her MIL Oh, ha!! I'm guessing typo since she was talking in the beginning about her DH talking on speaker phone and hating it.
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Post by moon/Laura on Apr 16, 2019 18:47:21 GMT -5
Whenever one of my cube neighbors puts their phone on speaker I want to kill them. I had one that used to do conference calls on speakerphone. So grateful she moved to another area. That was maddening. You would hate working where I do then. They don't provide us with headsets to use, and there are times when said conference call lasts hours, or even days (IT environment). And when you have more than one person on the team listening to the call (always done on an extra phone from the opposite shift because we only get one phone each), a headset wouldn't work anyway. It's even more fun when there are multiple calls going on at once.
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Post by sheilaincali on Apr 17, 2019 8:49:44 GMT -5
My DH talks to his mom on speaker phone. I think it is because he wants to share in his misery. I don’t like my MIL and I really don’t like my DH when he talks to his MIL, so I just ignore as much as I can. Thank god the Hubs doesn't do this. My MIL and I openly dislike each other. Fortunately we haven't seen her in person in over a decade and DH rarely talks to her on the phone. PS- this isn't me just being a horrible person. His past 3 therapists have all told him to limit his communication with his mom. She's a horrible, toxic person.
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Post by alabamagal on Apr 17, 2019 15:05:17 GMT -5
But she doesn't mention not liking her mom, she doesn't like her MIL Oh, ha!! I'm guessing typo since she was talking in the beginning about her DH talking on speaker phone and hating it. yes, sorry for the confusion. DH and I get along fine, but I really don't like listening to him and his mom talk. He kind of feeds into her wackiness.
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Post by garion2003 on Apr 18, 2019 9:41:58 GMT -5
It annoys me when people do this on the train or bus - and not for short quick conversations, oh no - long drawn out 30 minute phone calls. I get that sometimes people need to conduct business or deal with an emergency. But screaming intimate details into a phone for a long time while others are sitting quietly reading their kindles or playing candy crush..that irks me
You also learn way more about this stranger's personal life than was really necessary.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2019 10:25:27 GMT -5
I listen to Dave Ramsey's show, and he is constantly telling people to talk into their phone. It's amazing how many people call into a national radio show and use their speakerphone. They'll get on and their voice is all broken and tinny sounding like the teacher from Peanuts and Dave will say, "I can't understand you, can you PLEASE speak directly into your phone?" (like they told you to before you went on the air). There will be this fumbling around sound and then, TA DA! Crystal clear and easy to understand.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 24, 2019 10:30:48 GMT -5
I have a coworker who talks to his GF on speaker phone on every break and lunch, in the lunchroom. Which is about 6-8 feet from my office.* On a good day, I get to hear her telling him to say "hi" to mom as they're shopping or whatever. On a bad day, they talk politics and hearing them beat down Democrats and Liberals got old really fast. My Capt. says he'll be on speaker phone with her in the men's room so she's hearing other men pee, poop and fart.
* I do close the door to my office but I share and some days it's a constant parade of people coming in and out so closing the door isn't always the cure.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Apr 24, 2019 16:04:21 GMT -5
Last month my H. and I along with 2 other couples were having dessert at a friends. One got a call from her sister. She excused herself for about 5 minutes then came back to the table and was virtually screaming into the cell phone. When the hostess whispered something to her. She bellowed, well so and so can't hear. On and on it went.
So rude. This same person found 30 relatives through DNA test so she had tons of stories no one wants to hear. She was shocked and appalled that the man who raised her wasn't her bio father. She thought she was prepared for unexpected results. NOT. Rant over.
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