I need to quit too, I worry about DD's weight scared to death she will become diabetic and don't know how in the world I would deal with that. She thinks I am just being mean, I'm not, but need to quit because she doesn't understand and its not helping anything. She needs to feel positive about herself and here I'm not helping.
It is so hard to change.
You daughter has Downs, right? You are dealing with a slightly different situation. Moms harping on independent, self supporting adults that are living a typical life, responsible for themselves and experiencing the consequences of their decisions is ridiculous. If you are dealing with someone who has diminished capacity to foresee long term consequences and isn't fully caring for themselves - different.
Post by countrygirl2 on Jul 22, 2018 17:59:05 GMT -5
No Williams syndrome and a thyroid issue now. Supposed to be overactive, makes no sense, weight loss with that. But they have her on a suppressant for it till Sept when we get her into an endocrinologist. So with that trazadone and respiradone, well not good.
We are on week seven of her visit and part of me enjoys being with her while at the same time another part of me wants her to leave.
She gets bored, feels lonely, complains.
I change my work hours to be here earlier, take her to the YMCA every day to swim and do hydro gym, and spend all my free time with her. I am tired of driving and would like some time to myself.
I don't mind her visiting but maybe a month would be fine, instead of 4 months.
We go through this every year. I come back from vacation there during the holidays and by February she wants to coordinate her trip here. Then she wants to stay all summer. Halfway through starts feeling bored, lonely, depressed, etc. Two of my aunts (her sisters) have died in the past three months so I feel like I should be more grateful I have her. I am grateful. It's not that I don't like being with her, but I feel we should do things differently.