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Post by irishpad on Nov 14, 2017 16:47:04 GMT -5
Congratulations Empress! Like the rest, I suggest no to the champagne. When I get in those types of social situations, I just make sure to get something in a glass right away (tonic, soda, etc) so that others don't try to force anything on you. 251+ Awesome!
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Post by Iggy aka IG on Nov 14, 2017 17:45:02 GMT -5
I agree with the others about no champagne. I come from a long line of alcoholics and have seen firsthand the struggles and relapses. Don't do it. Take along the non-alcoholic beverage of your choice if you wish to toast the happy couple. Same here. I'll be bringing along a few cans of my seltzers in DH's go bag. He can have the alcohol, he won't be walking anyway. When abstaining, one of my faves is club soda w/ a lime wedge.
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Post by dannylion on Nov 14, 2017 19:31:17 GMT -5
Yay! Well done you!
I was going to suggest sparkling cider, but I see msventoux beat me to it. The bottle is opened just like a champagne bottle, so you get the pop and the bubbles. And it tastes nice, too.
Good luck. You can do this.
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Post by Happy prose on Nov 14, 2017 19:54:12 GMT -5
Congratulations! You should be really proud of yourself. And a big no to champagne. That's like a former smoker having just one cigarette- it doesn't work! At my daughter's wedding, I toasted with my water glass. I'm sure not a soul there noticed or cared.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Nov 14, 2017 20:52:06 GMT -5
I had sparking cider or something for my underage guests and those who didn't wish to drink. It was all poured after we came in so they could get people's choice. But to be safe I'd bring my own bubbly substitute.
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Post by happyhoix on Nov 15, 2017 8:51:09 GMT -5
Congratulations on your winning streak!
I always have so much admiration for someone who can kick an addiction. It seems to take so much more willpower than I could muster. You should be very proud!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Nov 15, 2017 12:17:34 GMT -5
Woo-hoo! Huge congrats!
I come feom a family of alcoholics. As far as I know, there is no “small sip” of alcohol ever. I could be wrong but that’s what my uncle told me (it took 3 stints in rehab for him). He wouldn’t even eat anything cooked with alcohol. He might have been over the top but he relapses so easily that he was taking no chance.
Best of luck to you!!
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Post by bean29 on Nov 15, 2017 12:27:27 GMT -5
Congratulations Empress!
I agree with the others, bring your own non-alcoholic bubbly substitute. It's too much work to kick a habit, you don't want to risk a relapse.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Nov 15, 2017 14:52:10 GMT -5
Aw shucks. Thanks. It's actually more than that but I forget how many now. I have it in my sobriety datebook at home. Along with my stickers that I give myself each day. Oh wise ones, my niece is getting married next month and I am quite positive there will be champagne for the toast. Should I or shouldn't I? I'm thinking no. Only because I know myself and would try to drink the bar dry. EYA: I'm a little more behind than I thought. I am at 262 days today! No. Don't take the step backwards. You know your issues and in this case, there's no such thing as just one. Enjoy clarity and peace of mind and do without the cheap, crappy bubbly (not saying the kids are cheap, but that wedding toast stuff is usually closer to Korbel than Veuve Clicquot).
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Post by ners on Nov 15, 2017 21:59:38 GMT -5
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Post by Icelandic Woman on Nov 17, 2017 13:23:36 GMT -5
Congrats Empress!!! No bubbly for you! He he he Keep it up!
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Nov 17, 2017 13:56:54 GMT -5
Congratulations, Empress! My DH hit 500 days over the first weekend in November. It is a difficult journey, but well worth it.
We too have decided we no longer want alcohol in the house. I informed my in-laws of that this week, and now they have decided not to come visit this weekend. Good to know where the priorities are for them.
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Post by raeoflyte on Nov 17, 2017 14:01:51 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your dh Nothin. I can't help but think this is a good way to get that separation from them though. I hope your dh can see it as a positive soon.
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Post by suesinfl on Nov 17, 2017 19:52:57 GMT -5
Congrats empress of self-improvement!!!! Do you really want to start over on day one again? You have worked so hard and come so far that it might be hard starting over.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Nov 17, 2017 20:38:15 GMT -5
Congratulations, Empress! My DH hit 500 days over the first weekend in November. It is a difficult journey, but well worth it.
We too have decided we no longer want alcohol in the house. I informed my in-laws of that this week, and now they have decided not to come visit this weekend. Good to know where the priorities are for them. Good for your DH! It is difficult and I'm still working on the well worth it part sometimes. I am lucky that if anyone wants booze in my house they bring it themselves, the whole 2 times a year anyone comes over.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Nov 17, 2017 21:26:23 GMT -5
Congrats empress of self-improvement !!!! Do you really want to start over on day one again? You have worked so hard and come so far that it might be hard starting over. That is a big fat NO! Took forever to get rid of the headaches and the weird loopy fuzzled head feeling. Really don't need, or want, to do that again. Now I need to remember to pack up some seltzer for the bridal shower tomorrow. And this is why I carry a purse the size of a suitcase.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 18, 2017 10:06:25 GMT -5
Congratulations, Empress! My DH hit 500 days over the first weekend in November. It is a difficult journey, but well worth it.
We too have decided we no longer want alcohol in the house. I informed my in-laws of that this week, and now they have decided not to come visit this weekend. Good to know where the priorities are for them. This makes me sad.
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 18, 2017 10:45:12 GMT -5
Congratulations, Empress! My DH hit 500 days over the first weekend in November. It is a difficult journey, but well worth it.
We too have decided we no longer want alcohol in the house. I informed my in-laws of that this week, and now they have decided not to come visit this weekend. Good to know where the priorities are for them. I had to tell my parents in 1993 either their drinking stopped or they would no longer see me. They were screwing up family gatherings with me, my siblings and their grand-kids. The parents stopped that day and were sober the rest of their lives (dad 2006, mom 2008). family gatherings were so much nicer after that.
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Post by lund on Nov 18, 2017 11:11:05 GMT -5
Your parents had the right priorities, Tennesseer!
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Post by Tennesseer on Nov 18, 2017 11:19:58 GMT -5
Your parents had the right priorities, Tennesseer! Yes they did, Lund. Yes they did.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 18, 2017 17:56:48 GMT -5
My sister gave her husband the choice of alcohol or his family in the mid-90s. He chose the family and is still sober, but no alcohol is allowed in the house. My niece says she thinks it is disrespectful when her brothers bring alcohol home and get told it has to go. They already know this.
When one was in high school, he had a bottle of alcohol "hidden" in the house. Sister found it when she was cleaning. She blamed her husband. That was early in his sobriety and she didn't trust him. Overhearing the discussion his parents were having, he confessed.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Nov 18, 2017 23:52:08 GMT -5
I was a very good girl today. Today was the bridal shower for my niece and I did not suck down the mimosas. The bride-to-be certainly did though!! She enjoyed herself though and that is all that mattered.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Nov 19, 2017 0:09:08 GMT -5
We are very proud of you Empress.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Nov 19, 2017 17:43:43 GMT -5
THANK YOU!
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 19, 2017 18:27:03 GMT -5
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 19, 2017 21:12:31 GMT -5
We too have decided we no longer want alcohol in the house. I informed my in-laws of that this week, and now they have decided not to come visit this weekend. Good to know where the priorities are for them. Hugs. My parents were ticked when we made that decision ten years ago. Now-DH made that a pre-requisite to co-habitation. I had/have no issue with it as I'm a teetotaler (sp?) 99% of the time. My aunt had stern words for my parents, and they let did let it go. I hope your family is able to recognize that alcohol isn't necessary.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 19, 2017 21:16:17 GMT -5
My sister gave her husband the choice of alcohol or his family in the mid-90s. He chose the family and is still sober, but no alcohol is allowed in the house. My niece says she thinks it is disrespectful when her brothers bring alcohol home and get told it has to go. They already know this. When one was in high school, he had a bottle of alcohol "hidden" in the house. Sister found it when she was cleaning. She blamed her husband. That was early in his sobriety and she didn't trust him. Overhearing the discussion his parents were having, he confessed. Well, I do think it's a bit different when it's a rebellious teenager versus adults being ridiculous.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Nov 20, 2017 17:32:42 GMT -5
My sister gave her husband the choice of alcohol or his family in the mid-90s. He chose the family and is still sober, but no alcohol is allowed in the house. My niece says she thinks it is disrespectful when her brothers bring alcohol home and get told it has to go. They already know this. When one was in high school, he had a bottle of alcohol "hidden" in the house. Sister found it when she was cleaning. She blamed her husband. That was early in his sobriety and she didn't trust him. Overhearing the discussion his parents were having, he confessed. Well, I do think it's a bit different when it's a rebellious teenager versus adults being ridiculous.
It was different but at that time in their marriage, my sister did not totally trust BIL when it came to alcohol. This happened pretty early on in his sobriety. I have heard BIL, sister and nephew all tell the story separately. It sounds the same. Nephew is now an adult and says that is one of his biggest regrets of his teenage years. That is over getting arrested for underage drinking that ended up costing him an internship in college.
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Post by empress of self-improvement on Dec 17, 2017 14:57:48 GMT -5
Before I forget, again. Today is day 295 and I did not have a single drink at the wedding. Wasn't any lack of my BILs offering to buy but the smell of the wine kind of grossed me out. So I drank water. Yay me!
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Post by msventoux on Dec 17, 2017 15:10:52 GMT -5
Before I forget, again. Today is day 295 and I did not have a single drink at the wedding. Wasn't any lack of my BILs offering to buy but the smell of the wine kind of grossed me out. So I drank water. Yay me! Good job!! That’s a huge accomplishment!
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