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Post by Chocolate Lover on May 10, 2017 15:44:18 GMT -5
I could live there alone but I'm not sure I could share it with anyone, even DH. I like the 800 sq ft one. The kitchen is bigger.
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Post by 973beachbum on May 10, 2017 15:53:33 GMT -5
I could live there alone but I'm not sure I could share it with anyone, even DH. I like the 800 sq ft one. The kitchen is bigger. The older I get the less and less I want to cook let alone clean. I could live with the small kitchen especially if the area had decent delivery. I got through moods where I think DH and I will need separate homes when we get older. We can seriously drive each other nuts sometimes. If that house had the little 10 X 10 end as a den instead of a patio it would be perfect for just the two of us. It would give us the ability to have separate space when we wanted it. And everyone knows being on the beach like that would be my dream!
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Post by Chocolate Lover on May 10, 2017 16:00:32 GMT -5
I'm looking forward to only having to worry about 2 opinions on dinner, mine and DH's and not having so many people to try to make happy enough to eat a whole meal.
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Post by dannylion on May 10, 2017 16:23:06 GMT -5
I hope that something like the continuing care retirement community my folks moved to when they were no longer able to manage the big house is available when I need it. They had basically a single-family home (actually a "villa" attached to its neighbor at the garage) with a 2-car garage. They had a nice-sized kitchen, but there was a community center in each section of the community with a dining facility and a "bistro"/takeout type restaurant. The community centers also each had a library, a pool, a gym, and big rooms that could be reserved for parties or meetings or movie nights or whatever. There were other types of residences at various price levels as well as 2 degrees of assisted living and a nursing center in the community.
My mom was in the nursing center for 3 years after she had a debilitating stroke, and it was easy for Dad to visit her every day. He just needed to drive about half a mile within the community.
I would consider moving to that community if I'm still on the east coast, but since my only relations live in California, I will probably move west. I'm very lucky to have cousins who would probably check up on me and raise a fuss if I am not getting proper care, so I think it would be in my best interests to make it easy for them to do so.
Maybe the sheer bulk of the baby boomer generation will make constructing more of those kinds of communities attractive and profitable.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on May 10, 2017 16:25:44 GMT -5
I hope that something like the continuing care retirement community my folks moved to when they were no longer able to manage the big house is available when I need it. They had basically a single-family home (actually a "villa" attached to its neighbor at the garage) with a 2-car garage. They had a nice-sized kitchen, but there was a community center in each section of the community with a dining facility and a "bistro"/takeout type restaurant. The community centers also each had a library, a pool, a gym, and big rooms that could be reserved for parties or meetings or movie nights or whatever. There were other types of residences at various price levels as well as 2 degrees of assisted living and a nursing center in the community.
My mom was in the nursing center for 3 years after she had a debilitating stroke, and it was easy for Dad to visit her every day. He just needed to drive about half a mile within the community.
I would consider moving to that community if I'm still on the east coast, but since my only relations live in California, I will probably move west. I'm very lucky to have cousins who would probably check up on me and raise a fuss if I am not getting proper care, so I think it would be in my best interests to make it easy for them to do so.
Maybe the sheer bulk of the baby boomer generation will make constructing more of those kinds of communities attractive and profitable. I believe my aunt is in a community similar to this in WA, IIRC. She's losing her vision and has no kids and decided to move out there. She has friends there but all her family is waay out here on the Gulf Coast. She does have cousins out there, maybe they check in with her?
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 10, 2017 16:30:39 GMT -5
I've been to some social events with him where the people from independent living and the people from assisted living are both there. He didn't like that they have an assigned time to eat and assigned seats at the table. He is very stubborn and independent.
He does have one of the CNAs from the place where he lives clean for him. He gets meals on wheels and divides them in half so he gets two meals out of them. See what I mean about cheap.
Either my sister or I take him grocery shopping.
I do think he would not like the price of a home health care aide, but it's much cheaper than assisted living.
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Post by Bonny on May 10, 2017 18:13:14 GMT -5
I hope that something like the continuing care retirement community my folks moved to when they were no longer able to manage the big house is available when I need it. They had basically a single-family home (actually a "villa" attached to its neighbor at the garage) with a 2-car garage. They had a nice-sized kitchen, but there was a community center in each section of the community with a dining facility and a "bistro"/takeout type restaurant. The community centers also each had a library, a pool, a gym, and big rooms that could be reserved for parties or meetings or movie nights or whatever. There were other types of residences at various price levels as well as 2 degrees of assisted living and a nursing center in the community.
My mom was in the nursing center for 3 years after she had a debilitating stroke, and it was easy for Dad to visit her every day. He just needed to drive about half a mile within the community.
I would consider moving to that community if I'm still on the east coast, but since my only relations live in California, I will probably move west. I'm very lucky to have cousins who would probably check up on me and raise a fuss if I am not getting proper care, so I think it would be in my best interests to make it easy for them to do so.
Maybe the sheer bulk of the baby boomer generation will make constructing more of those kinds of communities attractive and profitable. There is something like that near Portland OR.
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Post by Deleted on May 10, 2017 18:22:29 GMT -5
My former MIL is in a senior living facility that has the various levels of care. Her unit right now is an apartment, but you can then move to AL and then nursing home when needed. She gets housekeeping including laundry a few times a week, two meals a day in the dining room where they order off a menu, and a ton of other amenities. It is $3000+ a month. This is NOT LTC. It sounds great, but then you still have other expenses including Medicare, other health insurance, a car (in her case) with all the expenses, groceries, etc. But it does have granite countertops, fresh flowers in the common rooms every day, an onsite salon, etc. Growing old in style isn't cheap.
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Post by tallguy on May 10, 2017 19:37:04 GMT -5
I guess the builders are smarter where you live. Two years ago when DH and I downsized our primary criterion was at least 2 bedrooms on the ground level. (DH occasionally couldn't sleep and he had a balance problems, so it was getting scary when he went upstairs to the spare BR in our old house in the middle of the night.) VERY hard to find, especially in new construction. The master BR might be on the ground level but everything else was upstairs. Older construction might be all on one level but the rooms were small- typical of the 50s and 60s. We really lucked out with the one we bought. Two bedrooms on the main level, but a full living area downstairs that's prefect for DS and DDIL and their family. The parents of the wife of the couple who sold us the house lived there for 13 years. There is a lot of "senior style" housing in the West; think of the "Sun Cities" Dale Webb built in CA, AZ and NV. And not all of the communities are age restricted. His company built a development near our AZ house called Terra Vita (I think there are a few of them). Several of the homes are designed like tskeeter stated but the community is built for all ages. If anyone wants to look him up, it's actually Del Webb.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 10, 2017 19:55:16 GMT -5
Where my dad lives has independent living (you buy the apartment and get 85% of the cost returned when you vacate) and assisted living. It also puts you on the top of the list for a nursing home owned by the same hospital as his .
Some go from the apartment to assisted living and then to the nursing home. Some go from the apartment to the nursing home.
Mom was able to die at home but that won't be possible for dad since he did so much caretaking of mom. The weekend she died, hospice had talked to us about 24 hour care as it was getting too much for dad or us.
I would love one of those smaller homes some place. Since it's just me, I wouldn't be fighting with anybody.
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Post by naughtybear on May 11, 2017 8:42:19 GMT -5
I have always liked the idea of getting a plot of land (not large) and being able to have a sfh on it then one I need to get something smaller being able to build a small granny flat, but that would be assuming one of my kids would want the sfh.
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Post by sesfw on May 11, 2017 11:32:25 GMT -5
Growing old in style isn't cheap.
You aren't kidding there. Last time I checked the retirement community in this small town it started at $3500 per month for independent living. This was several years ago when we checked for SIL. Her income was SS so was way out of her range. This wasn't irresponsibility on her part ...... just that the financial world change so much between the time she retired and the time she need assistance (2009). People working in the 1940s, 50s, 60s were lead to believe that with SS and company pension they would have a good retirement. The world has changed. No more company loyalty on either side, company pensions have been replaced with 401K, IRA ......... all of which need member contributions. It's far beyond their understanding. Some day I suppose I'll need something like this. What I would like to have as long a I can do it is a granny house on someone's 'north forty'. But that remains to be seen
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