After reading all these threads about...

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husbands not working, women paying for everything and going through 2 marriages pretty much like that, I have decided to go for money in my next marriage   So how do I become a trophy wife? Is that even possible when I have a young child? Can a brunette be a trophy wife?

[thyme4change]

Boobs.

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I better get some enhancements! What else?

[Tennesseer]

You might want to consider becoming this guy's #3 wife:

Oil baron's estranged wife could get multibillion-dollar settlement

A contentious divorce involving an Oklahoma oil baron could potentially lead to a multibillion-dollar settlement for his estranged wife that would be the biggest in U.S. history.

Harold Hamm, 67, the chief executive of Continental Resources, is in the midst of divorce proceedings with his second wife, former Continental Resources executive Sue Ann Hamm. After filing for divorce on May 19, 2012, she has claimed in court documents that her husband was unfaithful during their marriage. He has acknowledged that the couple separated back in 2005, and the two have lived separate lives ever since.

Hamm is worth an estimated $11.3 billion and was No. 35 on last year’s list of the 50 richest Americans put out by Forbes. The potential settlement his wife could receive may exceed the more than $1.7 billion paid out in 1999 to Anna Murdoch, the ex-wife of News Corp. chairman Rupert Murdoch, depending on whether or not there was a prenuptial agreement.

“This is the King Kong of divorce cases,’’ divorce attorney Raoul Felder told TODAY. “Vast fortune. Sue Ann stands to make lots and lots of money, more than what is really on the table.’’

lifeinc.today.com/_news/2013/03/22/17415226-oil-barons-estranged-wife-could-get-multibillion-dollar-settlement?lite

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Can you introduce us? I will settle for 0.5 billion

[zibazinski]

You'd think rich people would have the sense to get prenups. DF tried but EX boo hooed her way out of one. Now he sure as hell will live to regret that!

[thyme4change]

You look pretty hot - so you might not need wholesale changes.  But, I suspect you will have to work it pretty hard.  New clothes, high heels, you may have to go blonder.  You will be competing with gals at least a decade younger than you.  So, you will have to be brighter and more fun.  So, while getting your hair done, read something.

[Tennesseer]

Mar 22, 2013 13:40:38 GMT -5 @bunnysmom said:

Can you introduce us? I will settle for 0.5 billion

I don't know the guy but I heard you can find him at his town's Women Haters Club.

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Mar 22, 2013 13:41:40 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

You look pretty hot - so you might not need wholesale changes.  But, I suspect you will have to work it pretty hard.  New clothes, high heels, you may have to go blonder.  You will be competing with gals at least a decade younger than you.  So, you will have to be brighter and more fun.  So, while getting your hair done, read something.

Thanks But yea my competition will be fierce. I am like a granny compared to all the trophy wives out there, maybe I can find someone with bad eye sight And I dont know about getting blonder, I may look ridiculous I am guessing I will need to dress a little sluttier

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Mar 22, 2013 13:46:36 GMT -5 @bunnysmom said:

Mar 22, 2013 13:41:40 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

You look pretty hot - so you might not need wholesale changes.  But, I suspect you will have to work it pretty hard.  New clothes, high heels, you may have to go blonder.  You will be competing with gals at least a decade younger than you.  So, you will have to be brighter and more fun.  So, while getting your hair done, read something.

Thanks But yea my competition will be fierce. I am like a granny compared to all the trophy wives out there, maybe I can find someone with bad eye sight And I dont know about getting blonder, I may look ridiculous I am guessing I will need to dress a little sluttier

You just have to find older gentleman with "one foot on the grave".  Just joking.

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"You just have to find older gentleman with "one foot on the grave".  Just joking."

Joking? Why? I think that is exactly what I need muhaahhahahha!

[thyme4change]

Don't go too slutty.  You will have to look very classy.  You will also have to be awesome at socializing with the guy's boorish friends and business associates.  Can you work a room?  If not, take one of those classes that teaches you how to remember people's names and how to make small talk.  

Expect to  spend quite a bit on some really high quality clothing.

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Mar 22, 2013 14:07:48 GMT -5 @bunnysmom said:

"You just have to find older gentleman with "one foot on the grave".  Just joking."

Joking? Why? I think that is exactly what I need muhaahhahahha!

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"Don't go too slutty.  You will have to look very classy.  You will also have to be awesome at socializing with the guy's boorish friends and business associates.  Can you work a room?  If not, take one of those classes that teaches you how to remember people's names and how to make small talk. "

I can make small talk. It helps to be from a different country, the accent is a lot of times a conversation starter. hehe! But I am terrible with names!

[thyme4change]

Start practicing at learning names.  If the guy is in any kind of business that involves schmoozing, you can't forget a face or name - ever.  Everywhere you go, you might run into someone and you will have to make the friend/client, etc. feel important.  That's where your value is.  

[shanendoah]

It's an awful movie overall, but find the Tim Allen/Kirstie Alley movie For Richer For Poorer and watch through the first party scene where they work the room. That's the skill you need to develop.

Because you are not traditional trophy wife material, you need to have something else going for you. An ability to help him close on his business deals is perfect. Being able to offer intelligent advice when it's just the two of you doesn't hurt, either.

Be prepared to spend money on hair, nails and wardrobe. You may not need a boob job, but a pushup/water bra could probably do wonders. (Remember, the point of having a trophy is for other people to ogle it, so it doesn't really matter if the goods are enhanced, no one else needs to know.)

Learn how to smile and nod, to be seen and not heard, and to pour the brandy without anyone even remembering you were in the room.

Also, learn how to plan a 7 course dinner, complete with a unique wine paring for each course. And start reading the society columns and pay attention to the gossip. You need to be able to change your seating chart at the last second, if person A and B are suddenly not speaking, or if it's just come out that person C and D are having an affair...

And one final note: This advice is being given to you by a breadwinner wife, whose husband is a full time student with a career goal of being a crackpot.

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"Because you are not traditional trophy wife material, you need to have something else going for you. "

 soooo that! I am an engineer! Can an engineer ever be a trophy wife? hahah!

I love all the advice! Keep 'em coming! When I land my sugar daddy husband, I will send your cut!

[bean29]

Mar 22, 2013 14:43:23 GMT -5 @bunnysmom said:

"Because you are not traditional trophy wife material, you need to have something else going for you. "

 soooo that! I am an engineer! Can an engineer ever be a trophy wife? hahah!

I love all the advice! Keep 'em coming! When I land my sugar daddy husband, I will send your cut!

Are you going to give up your career?  On second thought...My DH's college roommate has what I consider a Trophy Wife.  He is 49 she is 26 (I think) She was about 21 when they met.  He was trying to divorce wife #1 who took him for over a Million for a marriage that lasted less than a year.  I was going to say she just stays home with the kids and entertains their friends, but DH saw his friend yesterday and DH said she is working for a very famous politician.  Her Mom is the live in Nanny.

At first I was thinking she probably was not working very hard, but my DB's college girlfirend worked for Tommy Tompson on Campaign #1 for Govenor, then was hired on after he became Govenor and she had to work very hard. 

[justme]

Mar 22, 2013 13:40:55 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

You'd think rich people would have the sense to get prenups. DF tried but EX boo hooed her way out of one. Now he sure as hell will live to regret that!

True, but at the same time the guys (and I suppose women, but I only hear of the guys) that are worth a ton of money, I've often wondered why they don't just part with some of it to be rid of her. Sure, I'm sure there's someone women who want to take em to court and make their life hell (though what did you expect her to do if you cheated on her). But if I was worth a 11billion dollars and my husband was like I'll be gone from your life for 2billion I think I'd ask where to sign. I'm not going to cry about only have 9billion and it's far better than dragging it out through court where everything comes out.

[muttleynfelix]

Mar 22, 2013 14:43:23 GMT -5 @bunnysmom said:

"Because you are not traditional trophy wife material, you need to have something else going for you. "

 soooo that! I am an engineer! Can an engineer ever be a trophy wife? hahah!

I love all the advice! Keep 'em coming! When I land my sugar daddy husband, I will send your cut!

Well, I say that I am DH's trophy wife because I'm 17 years younger.   Of course he is a SAHD. So what do I know?

[mtman]

Mar 22, 2013 13:41:40 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

You look pretty hot - so you might not need wholesale changes.  But, I suspect you will have to work it pretty hard.  New clothes, high heels, you may have to go blonder.  You will be competing with gals at least a decade younger than you.  So, you will have to be brighter and more fun.  So, while getting your hair done, read something.

Forget all this......Get bigger boobs.   

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"Get bigger boobs."

Like Coco from Ice loves Coco? Do I need a name like that too?

"You'd think rich people would have the sense to get prenups."

I don't think prenups are that ironclad. A good lawyer can crack 'em!

[bean29]

Mar 22, 2013 15:19:38 GMT -5 mtman said:

Mar 22, 2013 13:41:40 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

You look pretty hot - so you might not need wholesale changes.  But, I suspect you will have to work it pretty hard.  New clothes, high heels, you may have to go blonder.  You will be competing with gals at least a decade younger than you.  So, you will have to be brighter and more fun.  So, while getting your hair done, read something.

Forget all this......Get bigger boobs.   

mtman - you are such a guy.

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Well, I say that I am DH's trophy wife because I'm 17 years younger.   Of course he is a SAHD. So what do I know?

Not the trophy wife situation I want! My first hubby was 5 years younger. Trophy wife looking for sugar daddy hehe!

[Sum Dum Gai]

But if I was worth a 11billion dollars and my husband was like I'll be gone from your life for 2billion I think I'd ask where to sign. I'm not going to cry about only have 9billion and it's far better than dragging it out through court where everything comes out.

It's usually not that simple though.  There are no billionaires that have their money in the form of giant piles of cash stored in silos somewhere.  It's usually an ownership interest in a business.  Would you be so willing to part with the two billion if it meant losing your controlling stake in a business you built through years of blood, sweat, and tears?

[zibazinski]

A good lawyer can only crack them if there was duress or the other party had no legal representation.

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In that case I will have to accumulate my wealth during marriage

[zibazinski]

Where people mess up is when the prenup is very one sided, as in the person with the money expects you to walk away with nothing. Not going to happen. Should and probably was told it wouldn't hold up but did it anyway.

[Sum Dum Gai]

If you outlive the spouse the prenup doesn't matter.  Look for older rich guys, and make sure you see copies of the will, trust documents, and whatnot.  Don't want some snot nosed favorite grandkid taking a huge piece of your pie.

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I'll give you Dr.Drew's advice on relationships - if you've only been in bad ones then it's time to date people you aren't attracted to.