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Jan 1, 2013 9:19:44 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:19:44 GMT -5
lone, My younger sister had a SAD. She passed away 12 years a go. When i get little blue , I take a walk with my music. Just look at the blue sky, look at the birds. And wave at people that passing by. That always helps my spirit. Happy new year. lone. You too, shooby.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:25:23 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:25:23 GMT -5
Lone - I have found that "embracing" winter is helpful. Don't just trudge through it waiting till spring. Decide to enjoy winter. Drive around and look at the beauty created by a new fallen snow. Feed birds and attract winter birds and watch them. Go out for a walk in and take some time to play in the snow! Build a snow man with your grandkids and watch them sled ride and/or you take a few runs down the hill too!
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Jan 1, 2013 9:30:01 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:30:01 GMT -5
lone, Holiday can be hard on many of us. Especially, you don't have support system around you. It's little hard on me too. This year is first year without Mom. And I lost many of my love ones in the past.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:37:55 GMT -5
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lone, She was younger. And she was beautiful person. She couldn't handle SAD, not just that broken heart from lost love...many other factor. she turn to pills and booze...And it killed her. Wish I was there to helped her out those hard times. But I was in other part of continent.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:40:46 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:40:46 GMT -5
Lone - I have found that "embracing" winter is helpful. Don't just trudge through it waiting till spring. Decide to enjoy winter. Drive around and look at the beauty created by a new fallen snow. Feed birds and attract winter birds and watch them. Go out for a walk in and take some time to play in the snow! Build a snow man with your grandkids and watch them sled ride and/or you take a few runs down the hill too! I envy people who can get out and enjoy the Winter. I can't tolerate the cold, no way. It makes me so miserable, even bundled up I'm miserable. Yes, vacations to warmer places help, but having to come back acclimated to the warmth, into this cold, pretty much negates the whole trip. I know...I'm just a big whiny bag. Well, first if you are going outside, you need snowpants. The old fashioned ones that with the straps over the shoulders under your coat. Second, when you are outside, do NOT allow yourself to think about how cold you are. Yeah, i know sounds silly but i have found it really does work! As for the vacation and reacclimating, well, at least TRY it! Make it an annual event and getaway! Something you really relish. It will break up the winter and you enjoy it.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:42:02 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:42:02 GMT -5
lone, She was younger. And she was beautiful person. She couldn't handle SAD, not just that broken heart from lost love...many other factor. she turn to pills and booze...And it killed her. Wish I was there to helped her out those hard times. But I was in other part of continent. I am so sorry to hear that funsnow. I think addiction is truly one of the scourges of our time. I hope we find better ways to treat it. I am sorry for you loss.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:42:08 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:42:08 GMT -5
lone, I envy people who can get out and enjoy the Winter. I can't tolerate the cold, no way. It makes me so miserable, even bundled up I'm miserable.
I am barely hundred pounds woman. I just put a lot layer of cloth. It takes me about 10 minutes to warm up.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:42:59 GMT -5
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Lone, try dressing like Randy from "A Christmas Story". (I can't put my arms down, lol!) ;D
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Jan 1, 2013 9:43:42 GMT -5
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Interesting that we a thread on death as we begin the New Year. It is kind of all connected. I have found that most people are very uncomfortable even talking about it.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:44:12 GMT -5
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shooby, I am so sorry to hear that funsnow. I think addiction is truly one of the scourges of our time. I hope we find better ways to treat it. I am sorry for you loss. Thank you. Me, too.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:46:47 GMT -5
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Thank you, lone. I have a belief, she is in better place then she was...That comports my heart.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:47:03 GMT -5
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I have lost the following people in death: Paternal grandma, paternal grandpa, maternal grandma, maternal grandpa, my aunt, my brother , and my dad.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:47:59 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:47:59 GMT -5
This is a good topic to come across on New Years Day. The renewed optimism of a new year. But, I fear losing those closest to me, when someone close to you dies it kills something inside of you and you're never quite the same. We come into this world struggling and we go out the same way. I don't quite get why it has to be that way........so I stopped wondering. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
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Jan 1, 2013 9:48:02 GMT -5
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Jan 1, 2013 9:49:47 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 9:49:47 GMT -5
I like the fact that the title "death" is in small letters. While it may be a reality, we don't have to let it define us.
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I have lost the following people in death: Paternal grandma, paternal grandpa, maternal grandma, maternal grandpa, my aunt, my brother , and my dad. shooby, Many hugs...
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Jan 1, 2013 9:54:20 GMT -5
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There probably wasn't much you could have done. Sometimes there are just too many obstacles.Thank you, lone. for saying that.
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Jan 1, 2013 9:57:09 GMT -5
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And the reason you are NOT there now is what? ? Ah....good question. Too cold to go to the car?
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Jan 1, 2013 9:58:04 GMT -5
Post by cranberry49 on Jan 1, 2013 9:58:04 GMT -5
I am another one that can't tolerate the cold. Besides that, the worst is the gloomy days. We are getting a lot of gloomy, rainy, days. This depresses me. The sunny days I open the curtains wide and let the sunshine in! Makes me feel lots better! I was told to invest in a sun lamp by my therapist. Problem is, my husband loves gloomy days, and I am totally the opposite, so what to do? I take vitamin D also. I eat healthy. Only time helps with this. Such as when Spring has sprung! Oh how I love that! I practically stay outside during this time planting, etc. I can't afford to take vacations to sunny areas. And no matter how much I try to be 'happy' in the winter? I just can't. It's simply not something that one can will themselves to do, shoobs. It's the same with clinical depression. You can't just 'snap' out of it. It's a truly physical thing that's going on inside your head that no amount of willing it to happen wil help. My mom, God bless her soul, could not understand this. She use to tell me all the time 'Why can't you just snap out of it like I do?' For one, she didn't have clinical depression. She just suffered from the blues because of boredom, etc, from time to time. As things improved, so did her mood. I could never get her to understand this! LOL! With clinical depression NOTHING has to be wrong! You just feel unhappy and sad every single day for NO apparent reason. It really is very disruptive to your life and take the joy out of simply living. Not something that I would wish on my worse enemy.
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Jan 1, 2013 10:00:41 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2013 10:00:41 GMT -5
Of course cran, and i do understand that. But, since lone indicated she had the money to purchase a second home, then i suggested that for her as a real and frugal alternative because it would indeed be much cheaper. And sometimes if you are fighting depression, there are times you do force yourself to go. You do it everyday just getting out of bed in the morning can be something to overcome. Believe me, i have been in those shoes.
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Jan 1, 2013 10:02:18 GMT -5
Post by cranberry49 on Jan 1, 2013 10:02:18 GMT -5
Of course cran, and i do understand that. But, since lone indicated she had the money to purchase a second home, then i suggested that for her as a real and frugal alternative because it would indeed be much cheaper. And sometimes if you are fighting depression, there are times you do force yourself to go. You do it everyday just getting out of bed in the morning can be something to overcome. Believe me, i have been in those shoes. You are correct here. In fact, sometimes when I get the blues really bad? I force myself to go and walk through the stores or go out to eat. And yes, it has improved my moods. Sorry, if I misunderstood your post.
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Jan 1, 2013 10:03:19 GMT -5
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And, sometimes we need to reevaluate our lives. If we can alter our situation a bit in some way, then the only thing that might be stopping us from doing so is ourselves. A friend of mine owns a condo in Costa Rica and he and his wife go from Jan to April. They aren't necessarily richer than anyone else. He makes decent money but they are the types who just "go for it" and live in the moment. I admire that. And, i have learned from him as well to take advantage of today.
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Jan 1, 2013 10:14:25 GMT -5
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And, sometimes we need to reevaluate our lives. If we can alter our situation a bit in some way, then the only thing that might be stopping us from doing so is ourselves. A friend of mine owns a condo in Costa Rica and he and his wife go from Jan to April. They aren't necessarily richer than anyone else. He makes decent money but they are the types who just "go for it" and live in the moment. I admire that. And, i have learned from him as well to take advantage of today. shooby, ]then the only thing that might be stopping us from doing so is ourselves. [/b
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Jan 1, 2013 10:15:17 GMT -5
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LOL!!! Yes Actually, we have a trip planned for sometime in March, visiting friends in Utah, 3 days in Vegas, checking out Sedona, relative visit in San Diego... Well, that's great! Enjoy!
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Jan 1, 2013 10:15:49 GMT -5
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Jan 1, 2013 10:17:42 GMT -5
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Sending it back to ya funsnow:
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Jan 1, 2013 10:19:27 GMT -5
Post by Reckless Roselia on Jan 1, 2013 10:19:27 GMT -5
To all those that have lost their loved ones. I know how it's like to lose a dear and loved one. A part of you dies too and to gather yourself can be difficult at times.
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Jan 1, 2013 10:31:16 GMT -5
Post by cranberry49 on Jan 1, 2013 10:31:16 GMT -5
I am another one that can't tolerate the cold. Besides that, the worst is the gloomy days. We are getting a lot of gloomy, rainy, days. This depresses me. The sunny days I open the curtains wide and let the sunshine in! Makes me feel lots better! I was told to invest in a sun lamp by my therapist. Problem is, my husband loves gloomy days, and I am totally the opposite, so what to do? I take vitamin D also. I eat healthy. Only time helps with this. Such as when Spring has sprung! Oh how I love that! I practically stay outside during this time planting, etc. I can't afford to take vacations to sunny areas. And no matter how much I try to be 'happy' in the winter? I just can't. It's simply not something that one can will themselves to do, shoobs. It's the same with clinical depression. You can't just 'snap' out of it. It's a truly physical thing that's going on inside your head that no amount of willing it to happen wil help. My mom, God bless her soul, could not understand this. She use to tell me all the time 'Why can't you just snap out of it like I do?' For one, she didn't have clinical depression. She just suffered from the blues because of boredom, etc, from time to time. As things improved, so did her mood. I could never get her to understand this! LOL! With clinical depression NOTHING has to be wrong! You just feel unhappy and sad every single day for NO apparent reason. It really is very disruptive to your life and take the joy out of simply living. Not something that I would wish on my worse enemy. I am sure connecting with you here and agree with what you've said. Nothing but the sun helps. Spring is....I can't even describe the feeling. You just yearn for it all Winter. The first days of Spring, I won't come in the house all day. I bought one of those sun lamps and didn't really notice an improvement. I've also read that sitting in front of a window in the sun helps only a tiny bit. Something about the glass stopping the rays we need? I do like to lie in the sun, in the living room, but I think all I get out of it is the warmth. We've considered moving further South, but my brother said that the heat in the Summer down there is unbelievable. I doubt the sunlamp would help me either, lone. It seems nice.. and sometimes my mood does seem to elevate when it's sunny out, however, it's nothing compared to the Spring and other sunny seasons! Yeap. I also long for Spring all winter long! It's sort of like a 'mourning' or a loss, is this your feeling also? It's really weird! Anyway, all we can do is suffer it out and hope for the best!
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Jan 1, 2013 10:45:35 GMT -5
Post by cranberry49 on Jan 1, 2013 10:45:35 GMT -5
Yes, like a mourning. Then when Fall comes...I love the Fall...I start getting this mixed feeling of dread. I'm exhausted from working all Summer, so the though of being able to rest in the Winter sounds good, but I know how long and miserable it will be. My hobbies really do help, but you can only do so much cooped up. Two homes is really the answer for people like us, but the expense..OMG! Wow! I feel exactly as you do! I also love Fall and exhaust myself all summer long! LOL! Then here comes the dread of Winter again. Two homes would be great indeed. However, I simply could not afford it. So, I have lived with how I am for ages. Guess I will just have to continue the best I can!
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Jan 1, 2013 10:56:56 GMT -5
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Yes, like a mourning. Then when Fall comes...I love the Fall...I start getting this mixed feeling of dread. I'm exhausted from working all Summer, so the though of being able to rest in the Winter sounds good, but I know how long and miserable it will be. My hobbies really do help, but you can only do so much cooped up. Two homes is really the answer for people like us, but the expense..OMG! Would you REALLY want 2 homes? I wouldn't. We downsized to a smaller home even through there are 5 of us because i don't like having more home than i need or want. It is enough for us to maintain and keep up one home. Having 2 homes would be like a anchor around my neck. I wouldn't touch that with a 10 foot pole. I have done a great deal of downsizing of my life. Too much "stuff" becomes the master. The less "stuff" i have to maintain, clean, store, fix, etc the happier i find myself.
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