Fake happy people

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But, it is really annoying when i am jogging with such a nervous rack jiggling about. ;D

[Jaguar]

[ZaireinHD]

Dec 5, 2012 13:08:47 GMT -5 @lonewolf said:

I've found myself hooked on those shows "The Housewives of...whatever" and I can't get over how sickening fake sweet they are to each other.
They will greet each other with kisses and then say things like "Oh, sweetie you look so cute, I love your outfit, your hair is gorgeous, your new boobs are to die for...." Then behind their back they rip them to shreds. Do some women really act like this?

LOL - that goes on in the office everyday.
;D

[zibazinski]

How do you know they aren't happy? I know some women that lead a charmed life. They're happy.

[movingforward]

My job requires me to negotiate contracts with sales directors at luxury hotels & resorts. Some of them are just naturally friendly people who probably belong in the sales industry but others seem completely fake, over the top, and annoying. I think I can still take them better than the debbie downers though.

I do agree with whoever said they wanted to punch people who walk around saying things happen for a reason. That phrase annoys the shit out of me along with all the other stupid phrases like "God doesn't close one door without opening a window." Really, well let me close this door and see if the window opens when I throw your ass out of it. Honestly, if someone is truly hurting from something traumatic that happened to them this is generally the last thing they want to hear.

[Peace Of Mind]

Dec 5, 2012 15:02:42 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

How do you know they aren't happy? I know some women that lead a charmed life. They're happy.

You are now living a charmed life because you seem very happy!

Almost 40 - I agree and they are undermining that person's pain which just means they don't want to hear it. I hate it too. I know a lady who said to me about my mom dying. "Meh. People die. You just need to move on." I had ONE conversation with her about it when it got brought up at a gathering. I've never whined or cried or discussed it with her any other time and SHE asked me about it. And she was sitting there sucking on a cigarette, is obese, and just had breast cancer. THAT she has no problem talking about. When she had breast cancer - over and over.

[ZaireinHD]

Dec 5, 2012 13:17:59 GMT -5 @missmargarita said:

You have crappy friends then...

Dec 5, 2012 13:23:41 GMT -5 @lonewolf said:

Or crappy boobs. ;D

Dec 5, 2012 13:18:22 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

Maybe I have crappy boobs.

Dec 5, 2012 13:51:42 GMT -5 tloonya said:

There is no such thing as 'crappy boobs'...just wasn't enought alcohol! ;D

[zibazinski]

I'm working on getting to that happy place, POM.

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I am for one, I don't like to be around who is negative. That doesn't mean I am happy all the time. I am just kind of the person,try to find positive from negative situation.

Why crying over spilled milk,learn from it, move on and let live. You might call it fake happy person.

[kgb18]

I would say I'm generally a happy person. I have stress. I have things I'm unhappy about. I have crappy days. But I have what I say is a naturally sunny disposition. I don't gush about things, but I tend to be pleasant. It's not fake. It's just my personality.

My personality has served me well in my job. People are willing to talk to me because I'm pleasant and I think they like me. I was out with my parents once and ran into someone I knew through work. She told my parents I have a light inside of me that just comes out and she always enjoyed seeing me.

When I have days that I feel blah, I try to remind myself about all the good things that I have in my life. I work for a newspaper, so it's not hard to look at other people's lives and realize that I haven't got it all that bad. So I guess that helps keep me positive.

[movingforward]

Dec 5, 2012 17:02:33 GMT -5 kgb18 said:

I would say I'm generally a happy person. I have stress. I have things I'm unhappy about. I have crappy days. But I have what I say is a naturally sunny disposition. I don't gush about things, but I tend to be pleasant. It's not fake. It's just my personality.

My personality has served me well in my job. People are willing to talk to me because I'm pleasant and I think they like me. I was out with my parents once and ran into someone I knew through work. She told my parents I have a light inside of me that just comes out and she always enjoyed seeing me.

When I have days that I feel blah, I try to remind myself about all the good things that I have in my life. I work for a newspaper, so it's not hard to look at other people's lives and realize that I haven't got it all that bad. So I guess that helps keep me positive.

I have had 3 jobs in my adulthood and all 3 said essentially the same thing on my reviews - I am extremely easy to get along with, not easily stressed, and don't get involved with office drama. Since I have to work with a lot of outside companies and vendors being easy to get along with is pretty essential. At my last job people in the office actually referred to me as Switzerland. I like Switzerland so I am okay with that

ETA: I am also not afraid to offer my opinion though and I am NOT a push over. I stand up for myself and have a strong personality but I don't seek out drama or negativity.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

And some will say anything opposite of what they really feel or is being discussed just to be contrary.

LMAO, POM

There's a few of those right here on these boards. ;D

[susanb]

I don't know any fake happy people personally, but then again, I don't have a facebook account. From what I hear, that is generally where people present the awesome! side of their lives.

I agree with others than some vendor/customer service people are over the top, almost sarcastically sweet. It used to piss me off, but now I just mirror their tone and I kind of enjoy it.

[Happy prose]

I'm friends with a woman on facebook, who I don't really know. She works closely with some of my co-workers and friended me. Her posts are insane. She posts all day how blessed she is, and her life is filled with rainbows. I heard through friends that a while back, she went through a rough divorce and was near breakdown. She's my number one pick for most likely to commit suicide.

[violagirl]

I find the most annoying people are the ones that try too hard to be liked. Invariably they come off as fake and nobody likes them. And they can never understand why. I'm neither sunny nor Debbie Downer. I also am fascinated by the Desperate Housewives...I just can't tear myself away from watching those shows because they are so fake and asinine. I tend to be more of an observer of people in general than ...in the thick of the drama. I like it that way.

[Opti]

Dec 5, 2012 13:22:28 GMT -5 @shooby said:

People who are always too happy make me feel suspect of them. I mean, there is a lot of tragedy in the world, how can that NOT touch or affect a person? I wonder if they are totally self absorbed or have their heads buried in the sand.

Maybe they realize staying sad or mad doesn't accomplish anything.
Happy people and spiritual people get smacked up with life all the time.
They just choose to look at the good side in part because looking at the good when you can keeps you healthier.

[Nazgul Girl]

I'm happy 85 to 90% of the time now. When I was young, I was unhappy a remarkable of the time. I like life better now. Dear X divorcing me really made my life better. I was much happier within six months of his leaving me. My DD has told me over and over again that after he left, I started showing a side of myself that she never had known existed. One thing I've learned is to leave the past in the past, and not to hate on anyone. So eat my dust, you crabs ! ;D

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Dec 5, 2012 12:52:54 GMT -5 whoisjohngalt said:

I am much more annoyed by happy people who walk around telling everyone that "things happen for a reason" and "we should always look at the bright side" and "everything is G-d's will" and "it could always be worse" so that's why they live their lives to the fullest and enjoy each and every moment. THOSE are the people I want to punch in a face and ask them how they are enjoying THAT moment

I totally felt like this yesterday! I have a FB friend that goes on and on and on about how perfect life is, her husband is perfect, her kids are perfect, her closet is perfect...she probably even farts rainbows because everything in her life is so perfect.

Right now I want to punch her in the face. Cause I am a bitch and I am going on day 3 or 4 of being sick and I have a lot of homework and my kids are assholes that trashed my house while I was fighting off death. Oh and my husband has been in another country for the week of slow death.

Oh and did I mention that it is also shark week on top of CRUD week? Yeah life is just perfect.

[zibazinski]

[thyme4change]

she probably even farts rainbows

You mean, that isn't normal?

Maybe I'm using too much body wash....

[Nazgul Girl]

Maybe you people are just mean b--tches.

[tloonya]

Dec 6, 2012 4:13:26 GMT -5 @angel33 said:

Dec 5, 2012 12:52:54 GMT -5 whoisjohngalt said:

I am much more annoyed by happy people who walk around telling everyone that "things happen for a reason" and "we should always look at the bright side" and "everything is G-d's will" and "it could always be worse" so that's why they live their lives to the fullest and enjoy each and every moment. THOSE are the people I want to punch in a face and ask them how they are enjoying THAT moment

I totally felt like this yesterday! I have a FB friend that goes on and on and on about how perfect life is, her husband is perfect, her kids are perfect, her closet is perfect...she probably even farts rainbows because everything in her life is so perfect.

Right now I want to punch her in the face. Cause I am a bitch and I am going on day 3 or 4 of being sick and I have a lot of homework and my kids are assholes that trashed my house while I was fighting off death. Oh and my husband has been in another country for the week of slow death.

Oh and did I mention that it is also shark week on top of CRUD week? Yeah life is just perfect.

I think I am in love with ChristmasAngel


How do you DO this...being friends with her? HOW? I would brake this BFizm in the instant. Your friends not supposed to drive you up-a-wall. Or do they?

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Dec 5, 2012 15:04:03 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

Dec 5, 2012 15:02:42 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

How do you know they aren't happy? I know some women that lead a charmed life. They're happy.

You are now living a charmed life because you seem very happy!

Almost 40 - I agree and they are undermining that person's pain which just means they don't want to hear it. I hate it too. I know a lady who said to me about my mom dying. "Meh. People die. You just need to move on." I had ONE conversation with her about it when it got brought up at a gathering. I've never whined or cried or discussed it with her any other time and SHE asked me about it. And she was sitting there sucking on a cigarette, is obese, and just had breast cancer. THAT she has no problem talking about. When she had breast cancer - over and over.

Being dismissive of other people is just rude. To say that about your mom is rude. Yeah, we know people die. But when people we love die, it is painful.
But what ARE we supposed to talk about anymore? If we talk about our successes or happiness, we are bragging, fake, rubbing their noses in it, whatever. If we talk about our problems or things that are going not so great we are whining, pissing, and moaning. I wonder if there is any reason to bother to talk to anybody?
?

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Dec 9, 2012 7:27:31 GMT -5 @shooby said:

Dec 5, 2012 15:04:03 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

You are now living a charmed life because you seem very happy!

Almost 40 - I agree and they are undermining that person's pain which just means they don't want to hear it. I hate it too. I know a lady who said to me about my mom dying. "Meh. People die. You just need to move on." I had ONE conversation with her about it when it got brought up at a gathering. I've never whined or cried or discussed it with her any other time and SHE asked me about it. And she was sitting there sucking on a cigarette, is obese, and just had breast cancer. THAT she has no problem talking about. When she had breast cancer - over and over.

Being dismissive of other people is just rude. To say that about your mom is rude. Yeah, we know people die. But when people we love die, it is painful.
But what ARE we supposed to talk about anymore? If we talk about our successes or happiness, we are bragging, fake, rubbing their noses in it, whatever. If we talk about our problems or things that are going not so great we are whining, pissing, and moaning. I wonder if there is any reason to bother to talk to anybody?
?

Good morning, shooby.

We all wonder about that some times. When I feel like that I usually use other form of communications.

Like music, what ever works for me to get out of my mood.

Have a good one.

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Hi fun! Have a great day, but not too great, cuz that would be fake and bragging.

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Dec 9, 2012 7:52:17 GMT -5 @shooby said:

Hi fun! Have a great day, but not too great, cuz that would be fake and bragging.

shooby. ;D

[tloonya]

POM!
Its so...what she said about your Ma.
I had been sad about my uncle passing away and my customer told me 'if person made up until 60 - why to be sad? Its life, people die!'
And in about 2 weeks he came and said his wife who was sick for years died...I was wondering if he remembered what he told me about my uncle. Its just in personality I think, careless and insensitive.
Unfortunatelly we have to deal with them. Life goes on!

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I don't think there is anything wrong with being happy. The only thing that rubs me the wrong way is when people constantly talk about how awesome they are. This woman does that. Everything about her and her life is perfect and awesome. I think it is possible to be happy without constantly talking about how awesome you are.

[Nazgul Girl]

We have this woman at work that always tells us about the great deals she finds, how she backs off management with rude remarks that she says she's made, up to and including telling them off, all about her great house, her car, her beautiful quilts that she makes, her kid's grades and exploits, and some fabulous vacations she and her boyfriend have been on. The tales roll out every week or so. We've given up believing anything and just laugh behind her back at her, although we are polite to her face. It's obvious that she's making most of it up. We just think that she lives through her imagination like many of us do, but confuses it with real life. It's just funny. I don't hate her because she's actually harmless.