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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2012 13:59:17 GMT -5
Well, i can't control the public so i evaluate all of these types of things as whether they are appropriate or not for my family. And, i don't get to tell everyone how to act. So, if it is bothersome, the OP can either go and complain and try to enact change or stay home. What else is there to say?
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Oct 28, 2012 14:19:42 GMT -5
There's no way for anyone to know beforehand how another person will act at a publicly-sponsored event - so you can't plan ahead for what "could" possibly happen and then make a choice whether to attend or not.
It was wrong for these adults to think they had license to scare strangers' kids just because it was a Halloween celebration - it was (according to the OP) a CHILDREN's hallween party - not an adult party - and they (the ones dressing up and doing the scaring) knew that.
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Post by doxieluvr on Oct 28, 2012 14:37:29 GMT -5
shooby, i don't think it is fun when the kids start climbing their parent's leg and crying because they have a zombie with blood dripping down their face, start to come toward them making strange noises. It IS fun. Part of Halloween is being scared. Are we going to take the scary out of Halloweeen now too ? And I have young children. Teach them that it is make believe.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 28, 2012 16:38:46 GMT -5
No, it isn't acceptable the rest of the year. But, if you go to a Halloween party, what do you expect? If someone is that sensitive, they should probably just stay home so they dont' have nightmares. I expect to know the theme and be able to decide if it is appropriate for our family. A city sponsored family oriented party would not indicate to me that I need to be concerned about adults intentionally trying to scare my kids. Why on earth would Halloween make that an acceptable behavior? Last year a friend hosted a zombie party. We didn't take ds knowing that wouldn't be a good fit for us. This year they hosted a star wars themed party. We took ds, he had a freaking blast.
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Post by happyhoix on Oct 29, 2012 7:59:09 GMT -5
I volunteered for our local community Halloween party this year, helping run the activities at the library, handing out candy to the kids. This was totally funded by volunteers, local businesses, etc, in a poor rural community where times are tough (for instance, the library almost had to shut down completely this year due to lack of money). The money for the candy we gave out at the library came from the Friends of the Library group, and from individuals donating it. There was a small popcorn unit set up at the Library where two high school kids were making small bags (kid sized bags) of popcorn to hand out to the kids. This was an older, slower model so it didn't make a huge amount of popcorn and they had trouble keeping up with the demand. They were trying to give it just to the kids with the trick or treat bags. I was amazed at the number of adults who came over to the popcorn machine and demanded 'I need at least six bags of popcorn' - for EVERYONE in their group, adults and kids alike. When the HS students told them they only had 2 or 3 made up, the adult would take all they had and usually make some kind of pained or annoyed look, because he didn't get everything he wanted. OK so not only the little Princess in the group needs popcorn, but the mom and dad and two grandmas that are following her around need it to? And you're going to have a fit because you didn't get enough FREE popcorn? I saw another guy pass by a bowl of candy a volunteer had set down for a minute, and grab a big handful of candy to stuff in his coat pocket. IMHO, the candy and giveaways are for the KIDS. If the adults grab it up, all the kids may not get any. If you want candy that bad wait until your kid goes to sleep and siphon some out of his treat bag. On the other hand - saw some totally awesome kids, one baby dressed as a kitten that was adorable. I was a witch but apparently not too scary, only one small boy seemed frightened, and I had a little discussion with him about how I was a good witch, and I had a son a lot like him, except he was all grown up now. Then I gave him some candy. The little boy turned around to his mom and said loudly "THIS WITCH ISN'T SCARY."
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 29, 2012 12:27:39 GMT -5
I don't think it is appropriate to go to a children's event and try to scare the shit out of the kids. You know what the event is.
Why is it not okay any other time to dress inappropriately for an event but on Halloween it is okay because it is "all in good fun?"
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 29, 2012 12:48:24 GMT -5
I hate Halloween parties that also have a theme - I feel like it co-opts my day. Halloween is the day you can do whatever you want, be whatever. But now I have to choose between going to a specific halloween party OR dressing how I want. I'm not putting together multiple halloween costumes - too much work and too expensive. So, if you are going to force me to be part of your theme, when really you should just throw a halloween party and let us all dress up as we want - it is kind of mean.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 29, 2012 12:52:40 GMT -5
Rats I lived in the neighborhood I taught in and I always dressed up and answered the door. Kids loved it. Plus I decorated and played scary music. We all had fun with it. They loved seeing their teacher and I loved seeing their surprised faces! You are too cute! We keep our decorations little kid friendly because some get so scared when houses are decorated for the older kids. I also put on all of the lights so they feel safe and I just look like me - which is scary enough. But they already know that. ;D I love their costumes and look forward to seeing them this year. We bought too much candy so I'll load up the little ones since they may not go to other houses due to the scare factor. Thanks for bringing this to my attention!
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Post by happyhoix on Oct 29, 2012 14:06:50 GMT -5
Steve you're talking about places that set out popcorn or candy for customers. Some of them offer coffee, too. This is a way to thank their customers and maybe increase business.
There's a difference between that and a community Halloween party thrown for KIDS, organized by volunteers, with donated candy. Especially if way more kids turn up than anticipated (like happened at our party) then the adults ought to refrain from grabbing up the popcorn and candy to make sure the trick or treaters all get some first. Or get one bag of popcorn for your whole group, don't insist every member of your party has to have their own bag, when only one member of your large party is actually a kid.
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 29, 2012 14:14:04 GMT -5
How do we feel about kids that come to the door, carrying two bags and say that their brother is in the hospital and he is collecting candy for both of them? The first time, I thought it was okay - but last year there were like 4 kids pulling that crap. Do I live in an area where there are a disproportionate number of kids in the hospital?
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 29, 2012 14:29:27 GMT -5
LOL Steve - I guess when you become a parent you aren't allowed to enjoy ANYTHING - no dressing up, no popcorn, no candy, no fun. It is just all about your kids, and if they enjoy themselves, you should just be happy with a water fountain that gives out lukewarm water - no snacks. And don't smile - that might use up the joy and some kid will go home crying.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2012 15:06:39 GMT -5
LOL!
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Post by happyhoix on Oct 29, 2012 15:22:24 GMT -5
Yep that pretty much sums up Halloween.
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Post by kgb18 on Oct 29, 2012 16:06:25 GMT -5
Exactly. I wouldn't take my 3-year-old anywhere I expected there would be adults in scary costumes. I do take her to our town's Halloween fest that is held on a Saturday morning and meant for young children and families. I would not be happy if a zombie with blood dripping from his mouth approached her at an event like that.
In terms of teaching your kids real and make believe, you absolutely have to do that. But toddlers are still going to be afraid of some things no matter how much you explain.
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Post by Abby Normal on Oct 29, 2012 16:23:24 GMT -5
LOL Steve - I guess when you become a parent you aren't allowed to enjoy ANYTHING - no dressing up, no popcorn, no candy, no fun. It is just all about your kids, and if they enjoy themselves, you should just be happy with a water fountain that gives out lukewarm water - no snacks. And don't smile - that might use up the joy and some kid will go home crying. DH loves decorating for Halloween. My only condition is that it can't scare the little ones. We changed a few years ago, to a graveyard scene- complete with fog, lights, music, and a "dead and breakfast- vacancy" sign in the yard with an empty coffin. The kids love it and DH has a ball with it. I can't tell you the number of parents that ask to take their kids picture in our yard.
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Post by kgb18 on Oct 29, 2012 16:31:43 GMT -5
agile, I have a hand towel with your avatar pic on it! A friend gave it to me. I have no problem with adults dressing up and having fun for Halloween. I just think you shouldn't wear a very scary costume to a community event during daylight hours that is specifically meant for young children.
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 29, 2012 16:36:30 GMT -5
Not scary = okay
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Post by kgb18 on Oct 29, 2012 16:53:00 GMT -5
Okay, I'll amend my statement to add, half naked to naked it also not okay for an event meant for young children.
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 29, 2012 17:04:41 GMT -5
That's my daughter - I think it is totally appropriate for a 10 year old.
NOT!
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