muttleynfelix
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jun 7, 2012 13:51:43 GMT -5
...:::"What prompted me to start this thread was really the difference in expectations of me, and the expectations of my youngest (of my three siblings) brother.":::...
That really depends on the family and not just birth order. I'm the youngest of 3 and I had the same high expectations placed on me as my siblings did. In fact, moreso because my siblings proved it could be done. Being the youngest, the most annoying thing to hear is when your siblings become nosey know-it-alls. Fortunately, my siblings never did that (or I never gave them the opportunity to do that) to me. At least not yet.
My DH is the youngest of 4 and his sister (#2 and only girl) did that all the time to him. Every girl he dated in high school wasn't good enough. What he was doing wasn't good enough. Fortunately, she learned to butt out a little bit in the 20 years between DH graduating high school and me and him meeting. By the time, she still has lots of opinions on how we are raising DS that she can just shove it. I don't want her opinion because I don't agree with how her and her ex raised their daughter. If we want parenting advice, we ask for it from people whose parenting we respect - our parents and my brother (sometimes my sister).
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AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jun 7, 2012 13:52:28 GMT -5
...:::"the point is that it really is not a great time to be looking for a job. So that's true.":::... There is nothing wrong with conceding this point as well. Sure, some people succeed quickly, but it SUCKS out there. I have a friend who started looking for a job the semester prior to graduation, and he really was the guy who made "finding a job, his job" after graduation. A year and a half later he had to move back in with his parents, because the best he got was being a host at a restaurant. Even now, I think whatever he is doing isn't something that one makes a career out of. He has a dual major (International Business and Japanese) and has a very polite demeanor. On the other end of the spectrum, some of my fathers friends, who have 30+ years of valuable experience are having similar troubles. Granted these folks are not just looking for "any" job, but still... Now of course... even in times of extreme hardship, there are things people could do to give themselves an advantage. ...:::"What prompted me to start this thread was really the difference in expectations of me, and the expectations of my youngest (of my three siblings) brother.":::... That would certainly be frustrating. My sister got away with a few things that I didn't, but other than that, my parents were superb about treating us both equally. However if I had to be out the door at 18 while she was given free room and board and grad school tuition, I'd be a little miffed. I'm not real big on "fair" and "equal". I've never really let that stuff bother me. I'm more interested in human behavior. I'm curious about why the exact same human beings that made one set of decisions at one point in time with one person, would do what seems to be a complete 180. I'm curious about motives / decision drivers. It's really more of a curiosity than anything. |
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AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP
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Post by AgeOfEnlightenmentSCP on Jun 7, 2012 13:53:36 GMT -5
If I really wanted to be bothered by "fair" and "equal"-- I'd start a thread on my sister. She got away with a whole lot of stuff.
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