dakota4600
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Post by dakota4600 on Sept 5, 2011 14:33:37 GMT -5
Not sure where I am, I think I'm at 2 NS, 3 NEO.
Had a good weekend so far. Cleaned out my closet Went through mini-D's clothes in his room and some from the storage locker. Cleaned the kitchen Reorganized cabinets Still need to tackle my nightstand and hopechest Went to dinner at a friend's house on Saturday Yesterday we went to a family picnic at my aunt and uncles Tonight it is dinner at my parents house
Sbcalimom- I know the feeling. I spent a day recently getting the house cleaned and by the time we went to bed that night it looked like a tornado hit. Rewards work well for mini-D, we typically just promise a sticker if he does a chore and he has 5 sheets of paper on the wall in his room and he puts it up on there. We don’t total them up. We did when he was being really disruptive during nap time at school. When he got 5 good reports in a row he got a toy that he had been asking for. Red- My DH swears that if we ever dress up for an adult Halloween costum he want to the electrical outlet and plug. He has been fascinated with electricity since he was a kid, so thinks it would be funny.
AZmom- Congrats to DH & enjoy your weekend away.
Spurby- Sounds interesting, DH might actually go for that. Especially if we did by health of food instead of price. Now that I'm trying to lose weight he is paying more attention to what he is eating. Of course this means that he'll drop 20 pounds without really trying. Never been to Austin sorry.
Muttley- It is nice dancing alone with DH. Hope you get the chance at the next wedding. I sent you an e-mail with a list of what I found in 24 month- 2T sizes.
Agggghhhh. I just lost a bunch of replies.
Miz Bear- Good luck with the painting.
Reenee- If you paid August rent why would you pay it again without first talking to the apartment manager?
Midwest- Hope the cars are not expensive fixes.
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Post by ses on Sept 5, 2011 19:00:24 GMT -5
4/26 NSD
Saturday was fun, but I DID NOT buy any more books!!! Sunday I had company, friends swapping off G'kids since my house is halfway between with a fenced yard to play in, so I accomplished nothing but having a good visit. Today I tackled the mail. Everything is processed, paid and necessary shredding is done. The filing is still in a big pile though.
All paperwork is completed and ready for testing tomorrow. This short week is shaping up to be busier than a regular full week.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 5, 2011 19:26:49 GMT -5
dakota - I got the email. I need to sit down with DH and decide what we want. You sound like you had a productive weekend. I hope you got to enjoy the much nicer weather.
I am so pooped. This morning we were all outside enjoying the fabulously cool weather and I was like I think I'll wash the front windows. DH was doing some other little chores and DS was "helping" him. Then they came to the front porch and washed the railing while I finished the windows. During DS's nap, I went for a run. Then after the nap we went to the zoo. DS has decided that walking is overrated. So, I ended up carrying him the carrier (Action Baby Carrier, super comfy and nice, was quite thankful not to be pushing a stroller around) for most of it. We went out to eat afterwards. I don't know about DS, but I am going to sleep well tonight. I just have to put together the meatloaf for tomorrow night and call my mom (we talk every Sunday night but she took Grandma to a wedding last night) and then my weekend is over.
Hope everyone had a wonderful weekend and has a great week.
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Post by mizbear on Sept 5, 2011 19:30:32 GMT -5
UPDATE- 4/25 CS/NS, 5/29 NEO, 3 MOAN, 1S (less than $10 )I spent less than $10 today on some Zone bars, a Starbucks, and a bottle of on sale Gatorade. Spent less than $10 total- but I knew I would kill someone without chocolate or coffee in my system. (I got up this morning and realized I was out of coffeemate or milk in all forms ) Tomorrow, I can go finish the trim in the family room and it will be done! ;D My uncle did the ceiling in the laundry room, so once my aunt and I scrub the baseboards in there, we can go ahead and paint in there. There was leftover paint from the family room- so the laundry room is now going to be a lovely blue-grey instead of white . DM is going to wash and dry my linens for me while I paint. On not so great news, the youngest of my father's 3 older sisters is dying. She has a less than 50% chance of survival as of tonight. Her liver has failed- complications of metabolic disease. When my parents were married, she was one of my favorite aunts on that side- although the middle sister was my favorite because we had the most in common. The youngest aunt encouraged me (as the middle one did) to not let anyone push me around just because I was female- even though she did guide me towards more traditional female roles- bu the powerful ones. She was one of those women that ran her office and the boss couldn't function without her. Not that her boss was stupid- he knew how valuable she was. In the right situation she could have been a very powerful woman. She always made sure I had gorgeous hand me down fashions from her. My father used to throw a fit because she would give me sweaters and blouses that he didn't think I should have. And then she would show me how to wear them properly with my requisite jeans. I have sen her maybe 3 times in 20 years by her choice- and twice was because someone in the family died. Sad. In happy news, I should have Wednesday all to myself. My brother has to use my computer... ... but other than that... I should have Wednesday all to myself- at which point I will get all caught up on my reading. To everyone- I hope you have had a happy and safe Labor Day weekend.
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Post by financialpeace on Sept 5, 2011 20:40:57 GMT -5
Update: 1/15 NSD, 1/15 NEO, 1/15 MOAN
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Post by startsmart on Sept 5, 2011 22:33:11 GMT -5
Update 1 NSD, 2 CSD so far
I really wanted to go out to dinner or buy groceries or shop today but held strong. Until my mom asked me to pick up a pattern at Jo Anns for her and while they were out of stock I did get a few things and paid cash from my allowance (CSD)
It's been a weird day but I'm ready to dig into my new project tomorrow when the whole team is back on board.
And oddly enough, I'm having so much fun writing articles for my site it's hardly work. I'm recording a series of videos tomorrow!
Oh, and *might* be stalking a new tech company out of San Francisco whose software I want to integrate in my work - they could also use some help on customer service so it's a win-win
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Post by 3catslady on Sept 5, 2011 22:45:20 GMT -5
5/15 NS/CSD, 5 NEO. I haven't spent any thing yet except pay bills and they don't count.
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Post by reeneejune on Sept 6, 2011 0:18:39 GMT -5
Update: 2 NSDI dithered a bit about whether or not to count Sunday as a spend day. I spent around $10 for some groceries and the Sunday paper. None of the groceries were strictly needs - I got ice cream, grapes, soda, and chocolate. I definitely eat crappy food when I'm stressed out. I'm going to count it as a spend because although it was within my allotted grocery budget, only the grapes were a good choice. Today was a struggle to not spend. I really wanted to go out for dinner tonight on my lunch break. We were expecting a semi-slow day at work, but it turned out to be much busier than expected. I would have much rather grabbed something quick and unhealthy, but I made myself come home and eat some of the salad I made this weekend with leftover chicken on it. It was good, but it wasn't fried. LOL. I also have a lovely lasagna in the fridge that I need to eat and/or freeze within the next couple of days.
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Post by sapphire12 on Sept 6, 2011 6:24:48 GMT -5
Morning all -- I had a fairly relaxing, but productive weekend, if that makes any sense. I stayed in the house all day yesterday; mostly watching tennis. I also feel like crap. I woke up yesterday with a sore throat. I wanted to make a hot toddie, but I need brandy. So, brandy will be on my "to do" list today. It's only Sept, I am not ready to be sick. Ick.
moneysquirrel -- yeah for staying dry and keeping power. The DC metro area is beginning to get the remnants from Lee. Yesterday, every few hours we would get a short-lived downpour and then the sun would come back out. We have a forecast for rain every day this week. Slow and steady should minimize flooding.
reenee -- sorry you are having issues with your apartment manager.
mizbear -- I hope the painting went well. Sorry about your aunt.
muttley -- We too had good weather to get things done.
dakota -- Isn't that funny, how cleaning up first yields a mess worse than when you started. I too have a clean house. Yippee.
kcgal -- The change of seasons can be brutal. It's only the beginning of Sept, which means we will see more heat, but the pollen counts for mold and trees is very high here.
MK-- I hope you hear positive news this week on DS#2 transportation.
SES -- wow on the budget!
Happy Tuesday all! East Coasters try to stay dry this week.
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Post by mrslynch on Sept 6, 2011 7:52:06 GMT -5
well, i thought i was going to be able to keep up this month. unfortunately, i am so mired in my own drama that i just don't have the energy to be a good friend and support system to anyone else. i guess it's time i filled you all in. my husband cheated on me. it was apparently a one-night stand and that's all, but it has absolutely rocked me to the core. everything i know and believed in is now gone and i'm having to start from the bottom. i have no confidence left in anything i do or say or think or feel. my life is in flames and all i have is an eyedropper to put it out. and i have no idea what i'm going to do. some days i want to work it out but other days i hate him so much all i can do is think of divorce. we are both in individual therapy and while we're still living together, mainly due to financial reasons, we are separated. we are doing whatever we can to insulate our daughter from what's going on and it appears to be working. it's also made me reflect on what i want out of my life which has been good. i have figured out that, financially, i can raise my daughter by myself and that's helped calm some fears. but emotionally, i'm a disaster. i can't think about anything else except this. it is all consuming. so there you go. i apologize that i'm not going to be able to provide all of you with the support that you need this month. i'll be here lurking and occasionally commenting but keeping up with my spending is just too hard. i did want to say, spruby--i love andrea's system for monitoring her restaurant eating (i'm making the assumption that her system is what you're referring to). it's really creative. for anyone who's wondering what we're talking about, go to sooverdebt.com her blog is fantastic and there's a post where she explains what she's doing.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 6, 2011 8:38:10 GMT -5
mrsl - Hugs. Lots and lots of Hugs.
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Post by sheilaincali on Sept 6, 2011 8:52:55 GMT -5
Update: 3/20 NSD
Mrslynch: Giant virtual hugs to you. So sorry you are having to go through this.
reenee: I worry about you and all of this stress. I wish I had some pearl of wisdom to offer you but I am sadly lacking in that department. Just try to not let too much pile up on you.
We had a pretty mellow weekend. Saturday we drove down to Iowa (Okoboji specifically) as they had a bunch of flea markets down there this weekend. Found some neat stuff for good prices. Sunday we went to one in MN and then swung by an outlet mall. DH wanted to price out new running shoes. Picked up a winter coat for DNiece at the Osh Gosh outlet.
Had dinner with friends on Sunday and a little bonfire. Monday we stayed pretty close to home and puttered around the house.
The Boy has his back to school conference today. I love how they do it here. We had a small orientation for all parents last week and got his information packet and heard a little intro/speech from all of his teachers. Today DS and I go in and have a one on one with his homeroom teacher, get his class schedule, put his school supplies in his new locker, pay for his lunches, get his school pictures taken, turn in all paperwork, etc. Takes about 30 minutes or so but it's nice to get it all done. Then when he starts school on Thursday he is ready to hit the ground running.
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Post by singlemomky on Sept 6, 2011 9:06:37 GMT -5
Reenee - I hope that your apt situation is resolved soon. Sadly, I do not have apt experience either so all I can offer is positive thought! mrslynch - Hugs! You also have a private message on Facebook! Sheila - Wow! I cannot believe that The Boy is just now starting school.
I will have to check my numbers but I think every day was a spend this weekend - but will double check and post later. Lil' Smokey - lost 2 teeth this weekend; one Sunday and one Monday. Tooth Fairy was busy!
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Post by sheilaincali on Sept 6, 2011 10:46:00 GMT -5
Smokey: There is a state rule/law whatever that says they can't start until after Labor Day. Some districts applied for a special permit to start early- based on construction projects that would be happening at the school in the early summer (so they could be out early). But yup- here we start after Labor Day and end usually the week after Memorial Day. It used to be because of farming but now it's the hotel and tourist industry lobby fighting for it. Apparently people won't go for one last summer vacation weekend if there kids are already back in school or so goes the argument that I have heard. It's pretty annoying in my opinion.
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Post by MittenKitten on Sept 6, 2011 10:58:12 GMT -5
We are in the same boat as Sheila for school (since we are in the same state). It has been going on so long I am used to it. DS#1 started today and was very excited. For the first time maybe EVER he volunteered to go to bed! Glad he is excited. I packed his lunch and put a note in there for him. DS#2 had his orientation today so went to that. He will start school tomorrow. DD starts preschool next Tuesday. YIKES! mrsl: So Sorry to hear of your troubles. I can see where that would make things very emotional. reenee: The reimbursement is low since it is for medical. I think they are only trying to reimburse for your actual gas and not wear and tare. I didn't know it exsisted at first when I was taking him to OT and speech was just happy for some back as I would be taking him regardless. So apparently my BIL has a cousin who is a prominent attorney and has an autistic child and worked on lots of ADA law. According to him it may against ADA law for them to not transport him. We will see. The company that transports him wants $64 ONE way for personal pay. That obviously is NOT going to happen.
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Post by singlemomky on Sept 6, 2011 11:03:31 GMT -5
Sheila - always the logic behind the govenmental decisions, right? It's just hard to think about starting school so late - some of the counties around here started as early as Aug 3rd so they've been in school almost 6 weeks now.
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Post by shanendoah on Sept 6, 2011 11:34:59 GMT -5
Final August Numbers: 12 NS + 14 CS = 26 of 26 I was hoping for more NS and less CS, but given that the last week was all vacation time, I'm pretty happy with how it worked out.
September Goals: 12 NS + 12 CS = 24 Considering the first 5 days of the month were vacation and I have 6 more vacation days coming up this month, including heading out to Tahoe for Firebird's wedding, I'm giving us a couple extra spend days. DH starts school the last week of the month, so we'll also be adapting to a new schedule.
Update: 1 NS + 2 CS = 3 of 24 I bought myself a new pair of jeans this weekend - taking me to a total of 2 pair. Considering Larry dog needs the dog park pretty much every day and the muddy season is coming, I felt a second pair of jeans was more of a need than a want. (Unless I wanted to do laundry every couple days- and with only 2 of us, we just don't have that much laundry.) I was happy because these jeans are a size smaller than the last pairs of pants I bought. I am down to under 250- I've lost about 30lbs since Christmas and getting the braces. That means that I actually weighed less on my 8th anniversary than I did on my wedding day. (I was about 260 when we got married- the heaviest I'd ever been at that point.) Now I just need to keep up the slow and steady weight loss.
I did not go back and read the end of the August thread, just started here in September. I like the weekly captains idea. Please add me to the rotating list.
The MIL has her pre-op appt today. Her surgery is scheduled for one month from today. I need to type out the list of all the questions we need answered and send that to DH so that he can ask the nurse while they're at the appt today.
My mother was here for a week and my yard looks amazing. The weather was lovely and DH was coming down with a sinus infection, so instead of cleaning my house (well, she did some of that), she worked on my yard. I feel a little guilty about it, but she likes doing it. I actually have a hard time getting her to stop to come in for lunch.
My father will be coming up for a week next week. He's going to look at our electrical system for us. He says he'll teach DH to do some of the basic stuff. Mom also thinks he should be able to help us repair the drywall we removed a year or so ago because of water/mold damage. My grandfather (dad's dad) told me that I needed to have a whole long list of things for dad to do and not let him shirk. I'm just happy because this is the first time since the wedding (8 years ago) that my father has come to visit.
QOTW: Junk mail sometimes doesn't even make it in the house. I'll throw it in the ouside recycle bin on the way to the door. Otherwise, it gets thrown into the inside recycle bin right away. Bills and things I have to act on get put in my purse, and I take care of all bill paying on my lunch hour. Our problem is with EOB's from the MIL's insurance company and other mail that isn't junk, but doesn't need to be acted on. It ususally piles up on the dining room table until we need to clear the table. Then it gets piled up in the office on the desk until I need to clean that room out for someone to stay in. The MIL's stuff gets put in an expando file that just has her stuff. Ours tends to get put in old shoeboxes that we will at some point go through and shred the stuff that's old enough we don't need to keep it. COTW: It is a very disorganized system, and I know what I should do to clean it up. But I haven't in 5+ years, and its not bugging me enough (yet) for me to fix it now.
renee: I hope you're able to work things out with the landlord. I would definitely make a complaint to the corporate office. Their current apartment manager is opening them up to major lawsuits and they should be made aware of that fact.
azmom: Congrats to your DH and hope you had a great family get away.
mrsl: *hugs* Wish I could do more
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Post by startsmart on Sept 6, 2011 12:21:30 GMT -5
dakota- yay for spending the long weekend cleaning and reorganizing! ses- when do you end up filing? Do you have music you can listen to while filing or set aside a few minutes every night? That's the only way I can keep on top of it myself. Shredding is another problem though! muttelyn- I love the zoo! Haven't been in years though. Hope you got some good pics of DS! 3cats- way to go! keep up the good work ma'am! reenee- don't you wish that our automatic response to stress was to exercise? lol at least it was just $10 on some treats, not $100 on junk sapphire- hope you're feeling better soon mrslynch- oh big hugs hon. I'm sorry to hear that your emotions and life feels up 'in flames'. even as we refocus on the monetary goals here you don't have to go anywhere if you're not in the place to monitor your spending in the midst of upheaval. sheila- what grade is DS in now? if you say high school I'm going to have a minor freak out… smky- wow, DS can be a pumpkin/jack-o-lantern for Halloween! mk- good luck with the transport issue for DS; it burns me when people who make the laws and change the rules have NO IDEA what it's like to be in your shoes but want to tell you how to walk. shenandoah- congrats on the weight loss and the new jeans! So nice that your mom was able to help around your house and good luck on that list for your DOD. Let us know how MIL is doing after the surgery.
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Post by financialpeace on Sept 6, 2011 12:39:20 GMT -5
Mrs.Lynch - I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am in a similar boat. I found out a week ago that my husband messed around with somebody a couple years ago. My situation isn't as bad, but someone told me to check out www.survivinginfidelity.com. It looked like a good place to vent and to know you're not alone and get some support.
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Post by mrslynch on Sept 6, 2011 12:43:33 GMT -5
thank you all for your support. i'm in therapy and i wrote a post about it (to be published tomorrow) so that's been helping. financialpeace--thank you, thank you. i will definitely be checking out that site.
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Post by dakota4600 on Sept 6, 2011 13:47:19 GMT -5
MrsLynch- Hugs, I hope you find the peace and understanding to make the right decision for you & your daughter. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. Keep us updated so we know you are okay.
MK- Good luck on the transport issue.
I've been busy, I took the day off work. I still have unplanned 4.5 days to use before the end of the year. After I dropped off mini-D I came home and weeded the front garden, then planned what is going to be moved once we got some rain and it is easier to dig. Then I came in and tackled the filing, which is about 90% done. I just have to get DH to bring up the big financial filing box, which is too heavy for me to carry. Then I went out and did some shopping, I got frames for some pics I found over the weekend and hit Target to use some coupons I had. Then on to Aldi for our weekly milk supply. (Have I mentioned that I love $1.99/gallon milk! It is like getting it 50% off at least compared to the stores we normally hit.)
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Post by sapphire12 on Sept 6, 2011 14:26:11 GMT -5
mrslynch -- hugs to you during this difficult time. You are NOT a failure and you CAN trust your decision making and judgment. You came to the boards 3 years ago, now your family finances are in the black; you left a toxic work environment; your blog is taking off; your adorable DD is as financially savvy as a 3 year old can be; you took steps to think about what you say to yourself, so that your DD will have a positive self image. You are in a rough spot right, but kudos to you for trying to remain some sense of consistency and stability for your DD. You are grieving right now. Keep up with therapy for as long as you think is necessary. I know it's difficult, but try not to make too many decisions until you are no longer angry. As an aside, if you need the East Coast Posse, just say the word.
start -- I've been taking cold meds today. Clearly some bug is going around. Tonight, a hot toddie should fix me right up. I"m off tomorrow b/c I have to go see my knee surgeon one more time. I over did my exercises this weekend. I can't jump like I want for Tae-bo, but I am making progress. I'm only 6 wks into a 4 to 6 months healing process.
sheila -- school starts this Thursday and you still get out just after Memorial Day. Your school year is shorter than around here. We've already had an interesting start to the school year with an earthquake and a hurricane.
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Post by sheilaincali on Sept 6, 2011 17:37:15 GMT -5
start: DS is in 8th grade this year. One more year until high school - gives me a year to get all the sobbing out of my system before he grows up even more on me.
sapphire: We don't get a lot in the way of school breaks. 3 or 4 days at Thanksgiving. maybe 10 days at Christmas and 2 or 3 days at Easter and that's about it. They even have a few extra days built in for snow days.
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Post by startsmart on Sept 6, 2011 17:54:47 GMT -5
tricky work situation ahead feel free to skip but I would like feedback:
So one of my deciding factors in choosing to leave my client's team and pursue other opportunities is the fact that she has put the management of the entire company in the hands of someone I deem to be very close to useless.
This is a person who "floats" from job to job, doesn't actually get anything done, likes to "reprioritize" and "reassess" and "plan" but when it comes to executing a plan or making sure others are on board is nowhere to be found.
And it's never this manager's fault. Someone else didn't do x, y or z and therefore nothing got done. It's madness.
{as an aside I was furious today when listening to their weekly radio show when they said "customer service is in *shambles*" which was my area of responsibility until I left. I gave them complete systems, how to videos, training and this manager has done NOTHING in a week so now it's all my fault. grrrr}
The trouble comes because while I've broken off from the old client, there are several of us who were on the team together who refer and work in collaboration for new client projects.
And this useless manager is on the new team as "operations manager" and I called b.s. I told the guy leading this project that I have no confidence in training and skills if they are not actually used. I called for this person to show us, exactly, what was accomplished in the last 6 months through the old client. Not what was worked on, but what actually got done, implemented and successfully?
This person can't respond to an email, transition in or out of a task and doesn't have any responsibilities. How stupid would we be to let it happen all over again?
I'm so frustrated because while I like everyone else who is coming together to work I really cannot stand to spend any more time with someone who adds no value and pisses me off so much. The old team was filled with people who did nothing and got paid and I don't want to recreate that experience. Ever. Again.
How would you phrase it? How would you navigate this situation? I'm speaking to the team lead in another hour and i want to be firm on this. It's not worth the trouble and this person is honestly not worth the space.
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Post by mizbear on Sept 6, 2011 18:56:50 GMT -5
UPDATE- 5/25 NS/CS; 6/29 NEO; 4 MOAN; 1 S I didn't count my emergency cup of coffee this morning because it was both necessary to prevent loss of life and keep me out of bed- woke up with sinus migraine and cost less than $5. In fact, it cost me 99c because I refilled a travel cup. ;D
mrslynch- As someone who was cheated on by their spouse- don't fall into the "worthless" trap. Just because he strays- even if it is just once, doesn't make you defective in any way. You are still a beautiful, intelligent, fun, talented woman.
start- Good luck.
I also create a much bigger mess than I started with when cleaning.
Schools here used to always open after Labor Day- but now they have crazy openings- including staggered openings for different grades. We always all started on the same day. The first year we went back before Labor Day, all the rich kids' parents threw a fit because their vacations were getting cut short. My parents were like- ok- this is when school starts (even though they thought it was stupid.)
If I can get a break from everyone for a couple hours- I might be able to string together a few cohesive thoughts.
HUGS everyone!!!!!
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Post by spruby on Sept 6, 2011 19:03:35 GMT -5
mrslynch - hugs and good thoughts to you - no good advice - just take your time and trust yourself
startsmart - I'm pretty sure you don't want to hear this - but you asked for free advice so here it is. suck it up kiddo. these folks are everywhere. in offices. self employed. on teams. they are in positions of authority and the junior folk on the totem pole. as you see sometimes the same one pops up again and again (whack-a-mole anyone?) and sometimes it is a different person but the same problem.
You have a ton of ways to address this - from walking away to saying it is them or me! (oh wait -that is the same way)
One productive way to handle may be to say - "I've worked with some of these folks before and really enjoy the team. But I also know we have some big talkers and a consistent issue in the past has been a lot of talk and no action. To make sure we get the impact we are looking for here how are we going to hold people accountable for results?" Then listen to what they say and go from there. But ultimately you will find these folks everywhere and you have to learn to deal with them/it in a productive way. Banging your head against the wall hurts too much after a while!
BTW - I know one of the joys of working for yourself is that you don't have to put up with as much BS. Just remember you do have to put up with some!
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Post by ses on Sept 6, 2011 20:03:48 GMT -5
Mrs L-- Much of being a good friend is accepting our support when it is your turn. Feel free to vent, whine, ask for affirmation or whatever and whenever you need it. You are a terrific and valued person, don't ever forget it. Let us help you through these hard times.
I don't have time to post more right now, but needed to say this.
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Post by spruby on Sept 6, 2011 20:34:59 GMT -5
mrslynch - thanks for posting the blog with the restaurant point system - I knew I found it by following a link - but I couldn't remember which one! At least the idea stuck w/me
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Post by dakota4600 on Sept 6, 2011 21:11:38 GMT -5
Startsmart- I agree with Spurby, part of working in the real world is that there are people who don't pull their weight. Yes you work for yourself, but you are working with others on a team and if you walk away every time there is someone like that jobs are going to be few and far between. Sometimes it makes no sense that they are in positions of power, but they make it there all the time and you have to learn to work with/around them to achieve what needs to be done.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 6, 2011 21:17:54 GMT -5
Start - I don't know if i have anything that is helpful and this is probably too late. What I do find is that when I have a concern about something in the company (not usually production, but lately certain people have made a lot of mistakes), I find that I'm not the only one who has that concern. And yes as Spurdy says, there is some BS you have to put up with being self employed. I watched my dad do it for the first 15 years of my life, spend 5 years doing the corporate BS and then go back to work for himself but decide to go back to into business in a way that puts up with less BS. I also agree to find out how everyone is going to be made accountable. Hopefully your meeting went well. BTW I highly recommend going to the zoo. We got a family pass this summer and have gone twice the 3 of us and DH and DS have gone twice. They would have gone more often if it had not been the third hottest summer on record. They'll go more this fall too. When I was pregnant, we went to the STL zoo. I want to take DS there, but we'll wait until he is a little older to see that. The animals were frisky this time because the weather was so nice. sapphire - Glad to hear the midwest wasn't stealing all the good weather, although after our extremely steamy summer you might forgive us if we do.
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