Loosing custody over an obese child

[pig]

How many of them are snatched by actual strangers vs non-custodial parents/significant others? How many are people the parents "know" like repairmen or lawn care providers?

Then how many are run-aways?

I get kids go missing, but the odds of a total random stranger snatching my child are still pretty slim despite the news.

Instead of asking these rhetorical questions why don't you look it up. It's not hard to find.

I don't live in fear either Archie but I would move if there was one in my neighborhood.

[swasat]

Jul 13, 2011 9:33:58 GMT -5 whoisjohngalt said:

For those of you who have older kids - how did it get to the point that they just won't eat something??

My 3 yr old tries to dictate what he will or won't eat, but the good thing (at least for now) is that he only knows healthy foods. So, even if he is being picky, it's still within a healthy range. Obviously, that won't last. So, how do you distinguish between them truly not liking something and just being picky and how do you deal with that??

Lena

We have a rule that they cannot refuse a new food. They MUST try it before they leave the dinner table. If they don't like it thats fine, but they MUST take a few bites.
Then I make it my life's mission to cook that food at least 2 times a month. Every single time, within a few months they have gotten the hang of it. I can't say they have always started loving it, but they eat it. Grudgingly? Maybe. But they DO eat it.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

So, how do you distinguish between them truly not liking something and just being picky and how do you deal with that??


Well with DD only being a year we don't have a ton of experience yet, but I figure she geniunely doesn't like something when I've exposed her to it on several occassion and she will not eat it.

She loathes peaches. I've tried baby food peaches, regular peaches, organic baby food peaches, there is no way on God's green earth she can be coaxed into eating one.

I know she's in a stage right now because she won't eat foods she normally chows down on. She is in a cheerios or Gerber puffs for dinner only mood.

I loathe eggs. I've had people, including my parents, forcing them on me for years and trying to get me to have "just one bite". Yeah if I don't want to eat them after 28 years, it's probably an indication that I hate them, not that I am being picky.

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Jul 13, 2011 9:28:47 GMT -5 @angel33 said:

Back to nutrition though...

My husband just went grocery shopping with me. He bought the kids all the CRAP that I don't buy them. He doesn't like to hear them whine about not having anything to eat is what he told me. Uhm...there is plenty to eat. I always have fresh fruits, veggies, and stuff for salads. I always have bread, cheese, deli meat. They like hot pockets, pizza rolls, bosco sticks...you know..the stuff that they get fed at school.
Last night they whined because I put my foot down and told them that they CANNOT have hot pockets for dinner. I made them grilled chicken breast, brown rice, and sauteed zucchini. Goose and I had broiled flounder ( my kids won't eat fish).

Ew, yucky!

I need to get more healthy recipes under my belt so that DS is on board from the beginning. Tonight is Arab lemon chicken, rice pilaf, and broccoli. Not the healthiest dinner, but at least the lemon chicken isn't the breaded and fried type.

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Jul 13, 2011 9:34:48 GMT -5 @pig said:

How many of them are snatched by actual strangers vs non-custodial parents/significant others? How many are people the parents "know" like repairmen or lawn care providers?

Then how many are run-aways?

I get kids go missing, but the odds of a total random stranger snatching my child are still pretty slim despite the news.

Instead of asking these rhetorical questions why don't you look it up. It's not hard to find.

I don't live in fear either Archie but I would move if there was one in my neighborhood.

I love my neighborhood. I will move if one of my kids is snatched.

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Jul 13, 2011 9:33:58 GMT -5 whoisjohngalt said:

For those of you who have older kids - how did it get to the point that they just won't eat something??

My 3 yr old tries to dictate what he will or won't eat, but the good thing (at least for now) is that he only knows healthy foods. So, even if he is being picky, it's still within a healthy range. Obviously, that won't last. So, how do you distinguish between them truly not liking something and just being picky and how do you deal with that??

Lena

I read somewhere that kids need to try something 10-15 to know if they dislike it or not (I don't know if it's true or not).

DS truly dislikes peas (just like his Mom). He'll be 5 in Sept; I figure we've served him them more than 15 times in his life, so I have stopped forcing him to eat them (which means I can stop forcing myself to eat them!!).
On the nights that DH & DD have peas, DS and I have broccoli.

[pig]

We do that too Swasa "One bite to be polite!" We usually tell him if that if he wants to get big muscles like his father he has to eat it and that usually works.

ETA by then it will be too late Archie.

[michelyn8]

Jul 13, 2011 9:33:58 GMT -5 whoisjohngalt said:

For those of you who have older kids - how did it get to the point that they just won't eat something??

My 3 yr old tries to dictate what he will or won't eat, but the good thing (at least for now) is that he only knows healthy foods. So, even if he is being picky, it's still within a healthy range. Obviously, that won't last. So, how do you distinguish between them truly not liking something and just being picky and how do you deal with that??

Lena

Lena, what worked for me when mine started developing different tastes but to try to fix a meal that had something everyone would eat. I was also a bit hard nosed - eat what I fix or do without and no snack later. So if I fixed a meal of chicken, rice and spinach and DD2 only ate the rice and spinach, I didn't fuss at her. As long as they ate something I fixed and I didn't have to fix a completely separate meal for each of them, I felt like it was win.

[midjd]

I can already tell this is going to be an issue with the in-laws... I'd like to limit my kids' access to unhealthy foods for at least the first few years (like Lena said, they can be "picky" but are still picking from a healthy group) but MIL is definitely the spoil-em-with-candy type. And she LOVES babies and has been begging for grandkids since DH and I started dating, so limiting her access is not going to work.

This may end up being a pick-your-battles situation, but I'm not looking forward to it...

[lazysundays]

Please stop bringing this topic back to the top. The spelling error is making me twitch.

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Jul 13, 2011 9:43:33 GMT -5 michelyn8 said:

Lena, what worked for me when mine started developing different tastes but to try to fix a meal that had something everyone would eat. I was also a bit hard nosed - eat what I fix or do without and no snack later. So if I fixed a meal of chicken, rice and spinach and DD2 only ate the rice and spinach, I didn't fuss at her. As long as they ate something I fixed and I didn't have to fix a completely separate meal for each of them, I felt like it was win.

I cook one meal (which explains why I've choked down peas for the past 6 years ).
The kids always have to at least try everything on their plate, or they don't get anything else to eat for the rest of the night.

We are also dessert people. Seeing their sibling having something sweet usually motivates the second one to finish up.

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Jul 13, 2011 9:40:10 GMT -5 @pig said:

ETA by then it will be too late Archie.

Not for the other kid.

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and

(it's so funny yet so wrong!!)

[swamp]

Jul 13, 2011 9:44:18 GMT -5 midjd said:

I can already tell this is going to be an issue with the in-laws... I'd like to limit my kids' access to unhealthy foods for at least the first few years (like Lena said, they can be "picky" but are still picking from a healthy group) but MIL is definitely the spoil-em-with-candy type. And she LOVES babies and has been begging for grandkids since DH and I started dating, so limiting her access is not going to work.

This may end up being a pick-your-battles situation, but I'm not looking forward to it...

My MIL takes the kids to McDonald's all the time. I've even brought fresh fruit to the house for her ot give the kids and it goes to waste.

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My FIL brought my daughter to Wendy's for her first fast food experience. The report was that she loved the french fries. Is that any surprise?

[swamp]

Jul 13, 2011 9:59:04 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

My FIL brought my daughter to Wendy's for her first fast food experience. The report was that she loved the french fries. Is that any surprise?

Yes, because their fries suck.

[pig]

Agree with Swamp.

[michelyn8]

Jul 13, 2011 9:48:57 GMT -5 @beerwench said:

Jul 13, 2011 9:43:33 GMT -5 michelyn8 said:

Lena, what worked for me when mine started developing different tastes but to try to fix a meal that had something everyone would eat. I was also a bit hard nosed - eat what I fix or do without and no snack later. So if I fixed a meal of chicken, rice and spinach and DD2 only ate the rice and spinach, I didn't fuss at her. As long as they ate something I fixed and I didn't have to fix a completely separate meal for each of them, I felt like it was win.

I cook one meal (which explains why I've choked down peas for the past 6 years ).
The kids always have to at least try everything on their plate, or they don't get anything else to eat for the rest of the night.

We are also dessert people. Seeing their sibling having something sweet usually motivates the second one to finish up.

I have never asked my children to eat something I wouldn't but there are a lot of healthy foods they like that I don't so I was always willing to fix those. They were usually exposed to those foods at my Mom's or another relative's house. We were never really dessert people so their "snack" was usually something like cookies and milk or something others might serve directly after a meal for dessert. I guess that made us "delayed dessert" people???

I was always leary of forcing them to eat anything because of all I'd heard about that contributing to some eating disorders. Most of what they ate and liked was healthy so I was ok if they rejected some things on sight. Besides, I was and still am a picky eater - if I don't like the way it looks or smells, its not going near my mouth.

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I never had brussel sprouts, beets, spinach, avacados, eggplant or artichokes growing up because my Mom didn't like them.

I want to expose my kids to all different kinds of foods. DH's palate is completely different than mine, so it stands to reason that they will like things that I don't like (bleu cheese springs to mind ).

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Eww, bleu cheese.

I hate yogurt, I've tried all the brands on the market in various flavors and just cannot bring myself to like it. DH loves it and turns out DD does too.

She adores mango which neither DH or I are really a fan of. Hates peaches, but DH and I both enjoy them.

[Deleted]

I have a very adventurous palate and I am trying to get my kids to have one too. My kids really do eat a lot of different ethnic foods, different veggies, etc. I just hope DH doesn't get it in his head that he needs to buy the junk he bought all the time. I will have to hurt him.

[pig]

It's funny I try and get my kid to eat mayo and meat but he doesn't care for them. He might not be my son after all.

[swasat]

Jul 13, 2011 10:13:48 GMT -5 @pig said:

It's funny I try and get my kid to eat mayo and meat but he doesn't care for them. He might not be my son after all.

Time for a DNA test doc?

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I think it's great that you realize you're picky michelyn and you know that your kids will be exposed to different foods at their grandparents house.

[swamp]

I'll eat just about everything, but DH is picky, picky, picky. It seems as if DS is following daddy and DD is like me.

And bleu cheese rocks!!!

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Jul 13, 2011 10:13:48 GMT -5 @pig said:

It's funny I try and get my kid to eat mayo and meat but he doesn't care for them. He might not be my son after all.

Meat is murder. Good for your son.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Hot Pockets haven't entered my house since we got married.

I don't mind the occassional junk food, I feel like if I go too far in the other direction it'll cause DD to go overboard once she is out of my control. I just don't want to make it a regular occurence. Junk is all DH used to eat before we got married and I don't want DD thinking that a Hot Pocket constitutes a "healthy" meal because it is a chedder/broccoli Hot Pocket.

[swamp]

Jul 13, 2011 10:09:01 GMT -5 @beerwench said:

I never had brussel sprouts, beets, spinach, avacados, eggplant or artichokes growing up because my Mom didn't like them.

There were lots of things I never had because one or both of my parents dont' like them. And my mom is kind of a crappy cook too.

I've since realized I really like spinach, avacado, eggplant, and artichokes. I can do without the beets and brussels sprouts, though. And peas. Peas are nasty.

[swamp]

Jul 13, 2011 10:15:22 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

Jul 13, 2011 10:13:48 GMT -5 @pig said:

It's funny I try and get my kid to eat mayo and meat but he doesn't care for them. He might not be my son after all.

Meat is murder. Good for your son.

I'm a murderer. Yum.

[pig]

Good God Archie don't tell me you're one of those people.